I find it odd even discussing it is taboo these days. Even on a small scale its freaky. I have two kids, raised in the same house, largely with the same style

I find it odd even discussing it is taboo these days. Even on a small scale its freaky. I have two kids, raised in the same house, largely with the same style but 2 years apart. Yet they are still entirely different. My oldest is more like her mother in personality and the way she works through stuggles, deals with issues, people etc. Eseentially the lens she views the world on. She has academically struggled, and we have had to work with her (and my wife) on how we deal with things that arent "easy" or overcoming not being a natural talent at things. My son on the other hand is so much more like me its freaky. He has to know how things work, or the why something works etc. Hes able to pick up more binary/finite tasks quite quickly for his age and even manipulating things/working on things in 3d or problem solving he is beyond his years. I can buy him, at age 5, pretty complex LEGO sets, like the 1000 piece ages 7+ or 9+ setups and he can pretty much do them solo. My wife is straight up intimidated doing them with him. Frankly im more worried about him socially as a result long term and I am doing my best not to project that onto him now as its not a problem yet, but I can see some of the struggles I had with blending in or assimilating socially being a problem too (and I had a TOTALLY different upbringing). Ultimately I cant think of it being much more than they are just wired differently. They approach things and the world differently (but still similarly to the differences between my wife and I).