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This is a hilarious example of how you don't get it. People in your position think because they have experienced a mild version of something or experienced some

This is a hilarious example of how you don't get it. People in your position think because they have experienced a mild version of something or experienced something once they now know exactly how any other minority experiences the world. This doesn't make you a bad person btw, just means you are not aware of how small your social context is.

Auracle 3y ago
Mild? When I was 17 I went in to the doctor because of extreme fatigue. He just slapped me on some antidepressants and called it a day. Years later I happened to read about low testosterone symptoms, which matched me very well. He eventually acquiesced to letting me test, and it came back 2 points above the low end of normal - which probably by itself qualified as low for my age. He wouldn't let me do a quick trial of testosterone supplementation nor test again, but I begged him to refer me to an endocrinologist. The endocrinologist (2 hours away) was worse. 100% dismissive, straight up told me I didn't have low testosterone. He did however let me test again, and this time I was 150 below normal. I asked to be put on medications that would maintain my fertility. He told me I didn't need to worry about losing my fertility on straight up testosterone, which is 100% false. I'm going to cut the story off there, but it keeps going. My dad almost died because doctors didn't diagnose his lupus. My sister's friend lost her father when we were young because of an infection after some dental work where they dentist completely dismissed his pain after the fact. Everyone is unaware of how "small their social context is," which is exactly my point. If I were a minority I very well might be blaming my story on that.
- newswasboring 3y ago
  You are completely missing the multidimensional aspect of this. I really didn't want to anger you, and that's why I chose to write my comment carefully. Apparently not careful enough. But imagine this dismissal, but in every part of your life. Your dad got misdiagnosed for lupus? They don't even believe that we have can a headache. Just chill man and accept that some people can have more problems than you and some communities have more problems than straight white males. If the only thing that will stop you from dismissing this is hard core data, i think you should recalibrate your empathy circuits.

Auracle 3y ago

Mild? When I was 17 I went in to the doctor because of extreme fatigue. He just slapped me on some antidepressants and called it a day. Years later I happened to read about low testosterone symptoms, which matched me very well. He eventually acquiesced to letting me test, and it came back 2 points above the low end of normal - which probably by itself qualified as low for my age. He wouldn't let me do a quick trial of testosterone supplementation nor test again, but I begged him to refer me to an endocrinologist. The endocrinologist (2 hours away) was worse. 100% dismissive, straight up told me I didn't have low testosterone. He did however let me test again, and this time I was 150 below normal. I asked to be put on medications that would maintain my fertility. He told me I didn't need to worry about losing my fertility on straight up testosterone, which is 100% false. I'm going to cut the story off there, but it keeps going. My dad almost died because doctors didn't diagnose his lupus. My sister's friend lost her father when we were young because of an infection after some dental work where they dentist completely dismissed his pain after the fact. Everyone is unaware of how "small their social context is," which is exactly my point. If I were a minority I very well might be blaming my story on that.

newswasboring 3y ago
You are completely missing the multidimensional aspect of this. I really didn't want to anger you, and that's why I chose to write my comment carefully. Apparently not careful enough. But imagine this dismissal, but in every part of your life. Your dad got misdiagnosed for lupus? They don't even believe that we have can a headache. Just chill man and accept that some people can have more problems than you and some communities have more problems than straight white males. If the only thing that will stop you from dismissing this is hard core data, i think you should recalibrate your empathy circuits.