All these years I never realized Stockholm was in Asia. While it may be prevalent among Asian cultures, it is absolutely not specific to them. To defend, and

All these years I never realized Stockholm was in Asia. While it may be prevalent among Asian cultures, it is absolutely not specific to them. To defend, and even praise an abuser is a common, human, cross-cultural response to abuse. It's a coping mechanism people use to justify the things that have happened to them, so they can carry on without having to face their awful experiences. It helps relieve them (temporarily) of the "double burden" the abused feel -- they had to suffer the abuse, and then they have to do the work to move past it. Easier to insist the abuser was right, and they themselves are at fault. To insist this is somehow confined to Asian families negates the experience of people everywhere. The original post was about an Asian family, but unless everyone in here is also Asian, these comments only serve to reinforce the breadth and variety of people for whom this resonates.