> after I've alleviated my own guilt by "repaying" them monetarily for all they've done in raising me. You don’t owe them that. “They put a roof over my head

> after I've alleviated my own guilt by "repaying" them monetarily for all they've done in raising me. You don’t owe them that. “They put a roof over my head and fed and clothed me” isn’t a parent doing good for their kids, it’s the minimum allowed by law. You make a choice when you have a child, and these costs are part of that choice.