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> At another point, he said that he’d truly changed and hadn’t hit anyone in the past ten years. “That’s literally not true!” I responded. “You hit me in 2020.”
by moffkalast 4y ago
> At another point, he said that he’d truly changed and hadn’t hit anyone in the past ten years. “That’s literally not true!” I responded. “You hit me in 2020.”
> “But I promise you, your mom and I never wanted to hurt you. I thought I was trying my best. I’m truly sorry.”
This is when you have to realize that the person is a sociopath who will say anything to get what they want, even pretending to apologize. When they seem earnest they're still pathologically lying because the malice goes beyond intentional but becomes casual, as that's just who they are. And people wonder why we have trust issues.
The unfortunate reality is that these sort of people also get very far in life, since nature and society love go getters without morals or conscience.
- knaik94 4y agoSociopath is the wrong word to use, and that is the crux of the entire post. There's nothing so clear cut in this kind of situation. The parent isn't strictly trying to get something from the child with this apology. I think the parent is having their own internal struggle between validating the stuggles the child faced and understanding they were part of the cause. They lose sight of some things because they have an "ends justify the means" mindset. In a sense, they were okay being the "bad guy" so that their child was set up for the best future possible.
- moffkalast 4y agoYes if you believe what they say, then sure. I don't.