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My mother has NPD. That disorder is very hard on the children. I am grateful to my wife, and for my son. We are doing things better for sure.
by fugalfervor 3y ago
My mother has NPD. That disorder is very hard on the children.
I am grateful to my wife, and for my son. We are doing things better for sure.
- monero-xmr 3y agoOut of all the traits, I think an inability empathize - simply to put yourself in someone else’s shoes - is the defining characteristic. Whether you are dealing with a child, a spouse, a service worker, a friend - the afflicted cannot understand how someone else feels. The “me” focus is overarching and permeates all thoughts and actions. One memory sticks out that perfectly encompasses his malady, is when my wife cooked a big meal for a gathering which included in-laws, friends, and neighbors. When she announced dinner was going to be served, he filled a plate with food and ate by himself at the table, before anyone else had sat down or been served. When asked later why he did that, he came up with a few reasons which essentially were “I was hungry”. I’m leaving out all manner of physical, emotional, manipulative, financial abuse he inflicted but the above anecdote is such a pure distillation of the lack of social grace combined with intense self-indulgence.
- squokko 3y agoI looked up NPD... what would you say is different between "having NPD" and "being a colossal asshole"?
- eric-burel 3y agoThinking of it as a disorder might help taking rational actions to fight it, like any sickness, eg get away from the person, understanding it's not your fault, and maybe get them medical attention etc
- fugalfervor 3y agoIn effect, and to the abused, absolutely nothing. For those treating patients with NPD, the diagnosis provides a framework for understanding and treatment. Most with the disorder will not seek treatment, as they don't think they have a problem.
- FredPret 3y agoCAD - colossal asshole disorder
- lostapathy 3y agoNPD is largely defined by the inability to experience empathy. They don’t know they are assholes, or worse, feed of a high they get when people think they are assholes when they think they are right.
- fugalfervor 3y agoAlso, consider that many psychiatrists and psychologists believed that the 45th president had this disorder. Some who worked with him (Paul Ryan, for example) were convinced as well. Of course, diagnosis from afar is fraught, as is diagnosis by non professionals. But I think the former president provides a good frame of reference for how people with NPD behave, but taken to an almost surreal extreme.