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My dad would make me pick, the belt or the wooden spoon. I'd pick the belt because a) fuck him and b) it would be over faster. I used to think this was normal,
by throwawaylifez 3y ago
My dad would make me pick, the belt or the wooden spoon. I'd pick the belt because a) fuck him and b) it would be over faster.
I used to think this was normal, that every kid got this.
He'd punch me in the arm, in the chest, smack the back of my head to 'toughen me up'.
One night I had a car accident, I called him from hospital (I was fine) he asked how the car was, how bad was the car? Who did I hit?
It dawned on me that he'd never asked if I was ok. I hadn't said anything but "Dad I crashed the car".
Years of abuse that I would hide and no one would know about, except my mother who put up with it and never stopped him.
Now he has very serious dementia, in a care facility on his own, still healthy but completely not himself. He cries and my heart breaks. He asks me to help him die because he forgets who I am, but I remember everything.
- moneywoes 3y agoThis this takes me back, having to lie in school and the library all the time about the cause for all bruises and cuts Didn't say a word, always felt the alternative of foster care was much worse Now, I'm paying for my mother's husband's rent Doesn't help that saying the word abuse has men ostracized in my community sigh
- hypertele-Xii 3y agoI got to choose the belt my dad would use to beat me with until I stopped crying and didn't make a sound. A wider belt had more mass to slap, but a thinner one stinged like a whip. Part of sadistic narcissists is building these mind games where you only get options for how to lose, never any to win, so you feel helpless and trapped. The only winning move is not to play.
- inconceivable 3y agomy dad didn't use tools but if given the choice i'd probably have flipped a coin as a fuck you.