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The real "be yourself" advice means "be true to yourself." Do be real about who you are and what you care about (innate to you), don't be rude and poorly prepa
by asdfman123 3y ago
The real "be yourself" advice means "be true to yourself."
Do be real about who you are and what you care about (innate to you), don't be rude and poorly prepared (not innate to you).
- hluska 3y agoThis chain of messages was unexpected but filled with great info. Good advice - thanks for sharing.
- bombcar 3y agoAnd if you're playing a part to get a result; you'll have to keep playing that part. It can work for a job, but it's a shaky basis for a long-term relationship.
- WalterBright 3y ago> Do be real about who you are and what you care about All of us have tendencies that are better repressed. This is why we have a brain.
- asdfman123 3y agoThere’s obviously nuance to it
- Dudeman112 3y agoThe "be the real you" crowd never quite has a good answer for "what if the real you is an unlovable, broken piece of shit?", do they?
- asdfman123 3y agoThere is an answer once you’re willing to break out of the cycle of self pity that’s trapping you there.
- Dudeman112 3y agoWhich cycle of self pity? I'm a sadistic fuck that's been made to have the caring range of a rock due to childhood abuse I'm fine being that way, it's just not conductive to maintaining relationships. Been there, done the whole 'be yourself bollocks' - the results were shit. Pretending to care far more than I do, and constantly suppressing the sardonic and vindictive tendencies has been far more pleasant 'just tweak core aspects of your personality' is exactly the opposite of being yourself