The parents I experience around me are the very definition of dull. They lament simultaneously all the drawbacks one expects from raising children, having no ti

The parents I experience around me are the very definition of dull. They lament simultaneously all the drawbacks one expects from raising children, having no time to do what they want, worrying about their children all the time, experiencing stress from financially stretching themselves, brain fog from being unable to sleep 8 uninterrupted hours at night. Forget about hobbies, forget about having maintaining your relationship to your spouse or even your previous circle of friends. Yes, most are sick to add that they nevertheless wouldn't change it for anything. My impression take-away though is the exact opposite of yours: Making the same decision as your parents and most everyone around you, because you fear having to come up with your own ways to spend your time, it's the most dull thing I ever heard.