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This x 100. In many ways making friends as an adult is like romantic dating, but should be less stressful and easier. You just have to start asking people to d

This x 100. In many ways making friends as an adult is like romantic dating, but should be less stressful and easier. You just have to start asking people to do things together. You'll find that you really connect with some people, and others you won't but don't despair. Just keep "dating" until you find a group of people you enjoy hanging out with and who enjoy having you around.

hinkley 3y ago
My introverted ass spends at least 6 hours a year for the last decade wondering if I should install a Customer Relationship Management program to use on my friends. I mirror other people, always have. If they are happy to see me, I'm happy to see them. But if they don't call, I don't call. If we are both introverts we collectively decide that the other person thinks we're a toad and nobody likes us. If it weren't for the "Extrovert who collects introverts" trope I'd probably have no friends at all (or at least, prior to volunteering). There are a bunch of people I only ever see when we both show up at a third person's house or event.
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- carlosjobim 3y ago
  > My introverted ass spends at least 6 hours a year for the last decade wondering if I should install a Customer Relationship Management program to use on my friends. Please don't, that is not dignified neither for you nor for the people you put there. You could even call it creepy. I had an acquaintance a few years ago that was a hacker type and I suspect he was doing that, and automatizing "what's up"-messages.
  - hinkley 3y ago
    Even when I'm doing the sending it still devolves to "what's up" 10% of the time.
- comprambler 3y ago
  Just occurred to me that people CRM is called a phone book! Add notes, bdays, pics, etc.
- navigate8310 3y ago
  You should really check out https://github.com/monicahq/monica https://github.com/monicahq/monica

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This x 100. In many ways making friends as an adult is like romantic dating, but should be less stressful and easier. You just have to start asking people to d

by woeirua 3y ago

hinkley 3y ago
My introverted ass spends at least 6 hours a year for the last decade wondering if I should install a Customer Relationship Management program to use on my friends. I mirror other people, always have. If they are happy to see me, I'm happy to see them. But if they don't call, I don't call. If we are both introverts we collectively decide that the other person thinks we're a toad and nobody likes us. If it weren't for the "Extrovert who collects introverts" trope I'd probably have no friends at all (or at least, prior to volunteering). There are a bunch of people I only ever see when we both show up at a third person's house or event.
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- carlosjobim 3y ago
  > My introverted ass spends at least 6 hours a year for the last decade wondering if I should install a Customer Relationship Management program to use on my friends. Please don't, that is not dignified neither for you nor for the people you put there. You could even call it creepy. I had an acquaintance a few years ago that was a hacker type and I suspect he was doing that, and automatizing "what's up"-messages.
  - hinkley 3y ago
    Even when I'm doing the sending it still devolves to "what's up" 10% of the time.
- comprambler 3y ago
  Just occurred to me that people CRM is called a phone book! Add notes, bdays, pics, etc.
- navigate8310 3y ago
  You should really check out https://github.com/monicahq/monica https://github.com/monicahq/monica