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Glad it worked for you, but "I need to get married ASAP to cure my loneliness" may backfire if the marriage ever ends given that you are not, in fact, locked in
by SketchySeaBeast 4y ago
Glad it worked for you, but "I need to get married ASAP to cure my loneliness" may backfire if the marriage ever ends given that you are not, in fact, locked in. Also, the odds of it ending may increase given that you may be willing to forgive a lot of personality quirks in your rush to marry, but those could prove to be unacceptable once you're married for a while.
- xyzzy4747 4y agoIt’s not necessary but perhaps date someone from a culture where they almost never divorce - I married an Indian and brought her here on a visa. The divorce rate there is one of the lowest in the world, about 1%.
- watwut 4y agoMarriage with spouse resentful that you locked her is not all that great. And since the plan is the "I do zero effort and get stuff from spouse" chances of resentment are high.
- SketchySeaBeast 4y agoIsn't the low Indian divorce rate due to extreme cultural pressure to remain together and a court system that is extremely limiting in who can divorce, not an indicator that the marriages are happy or fulfilling?
- xyzzy4747 4y agoI mean I just have my ideas, so maybe this isn’t correct, but I think Indians treat family relationships more like a single unit as opposed to US culture where everyone acts more like an individual (even people within a marriage) and finds reasons to prioritize going their own path. What you’re saying may have elements of truth too. My N=1 experience is my relationship is very happy and fulfilling.
- Mezzie 4y agoHopefully your spouse doesn't die or end up disabled. Marriages can end/the spouse can stop being the social engine for reasons that aren't divorce.