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Separate your personal happiness from your job. Who knows what the future holds, maybe it won't be working in tech. Be ready for anything IMHO. It might get b

Separate your personal happiness from your job. Who knows what the future holds, maybe it won't be working in tech. Be ready for anything IMHO. It might get better, or it might not any time soon. But the sun will come up again tomorrow, and the day after and after etc.

alexvoda 3y ago
I can understand trying to have a calming discourse whose message pretty much amounts to "c'est la vie". But even if that is not your intention, it can come out as dismissive. Many people do worry about the future for very good reasons.
- qbasic_forever 3y ago
  How does it help your situation to worry about something you cannot control or influence in any way whatsoever? Plan for the future, good or bad, but don't dwell on what you can't control.
  - the_only_law 3y ago
    > How does it help your situation to worry about something you cannot control or influence in any way whatsoever? They affect me. I don’t give a fuck what the sun does everyday if I can’t pay my rent.
    - ambicapter 3y ago
      Worrying won't pay your rent either, is the point.
      - the_only_law 3y ago
        No, but it’ll certainly make me more likely to do things that might pay my rent. Certainly compared to a “la de da nothing is wrong xd it is what it is” attitude.
        ambicapter 3y ago
        You're basically agreeing with the people you were arguing with. It's the "do things" part that worthwhile, not the "worry about it" part. > “la de da nothing is wrong xd it is what it is” attitude You misunderstood, no one above was taking that attitude.
- whateverman23 3y ago
  I think many people, especially the privileged in tech, haven't had to worry about money before. The possibility of losing it all and ending up homeless doesn't even cross their mind, either from ignorance or from significant personal/family wealth that provides a safety net. Easy not to worry when you can't fathom that it may happen to you or your peer.
symlinkk 3y ago
My job pays for the roof over my head and the food on my table. How am I supposed to be happy without that?
- SauciestGNU 3y ago
  I also struggle to separate what I do from who I am. I've been trying to build a more purposeful sense of identity outside of work, because jobs will come and go. Plus I sound like a real tool if someone asks me what my deal is and all I can say is "software engineer".

alexvoda 3y ago

I can understand trying to have a calming discourse whose message pretty much amounts to "c'est la vie". But even if that is not your intention, it can come out as dismissive. Many people do worry about the future for very good reasons.

qbasic_forever 3y ago
How does it help your situation to worry about something you cannot control or influence in any way whatsoever? Plan for the future, good or bad, but don't dwell on what you can't control.
- the_only_law 3y ago
  > How does it help your situation to worry about something you cannot control or influence in any way whatsoever? They affect me. I don’t give a fuck what the sun does everyday if I can’t pay my rent.
  - ambicapter 3y ago
    Worrying won't pay your rent either, is the point.
    - the_only_law 3y ago
      No, but it’ll certainly make me more likely to do things that might pay my rent. Certainly compared to a “la de da nothing is wrong xd it is what it is” attitude.
      - ambicapter 3y ago
        You're basically agreeing with the people you were arguing with. It's the "do things" part that worthwhile, not the "worry about it" part. > “la de da nothing is wrong xd it is what it is” attitude You misunderstood, no one above was taking that attitude.
whateverman23 3y ago
I think many people, especially the privileged in tech, haven't had to worry about money before. The possibility of losing it all and ending up homeless doesn't even cross their mind, either from ignorance or from significant personal/family wealth that provides a safety net. Easy not to worry when you can't fathom that it may happen to you or your peer.

symlinkk 3y ago

My job pays for the roof over my head and the food on my table. How am I supposed to be happy without that?

SauciestGNU 3y ago
I also struggle to separate what I do from who I am. I've been trying to build a more purposeful sense of identity outside of work, because jobs will come and go. Plus I sound like a real tool if someone asks me what my deal is and all I can say is "software engineer".