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There is a difference between saying a victim, rather than the perpetrator, is to blame for the abuse (actual victim blaming) and saying the victim had the powe
by lliamander 3y ago
There is a difference between saying a victim, rather than the perpetrator, is to blame for the abuse (actual victim blaming) and saying the victim had the power to avoid it.
If I go to a dangerous part of town and get mugged, it's perfectly reasonable to ask how I could have avoided being mugged. That does not mean I am to blame, or that the mugger should not be arrested.
- dingledork69 3y agoDo you also think women should not be allowed to wear revealing clothes, lest they get raped? I hope not. People deserve to be themselves without getting raped, or bullied.
- lliamander 3y ago> Do you also think women should not be allowed to wear revealing clothes, lest they get raped? No. Nor have I said anything like that. > People deserve to be themselves without getting raped, or bullied. Sure, but we don't live in a world where such things can be completely prevented. Therefore, every person has a responsibility to take reasonable precautions for their own safety and well-being. Derailing conversations about what people can or should have done to avoid being victimized with accusations of "victim blaming" is actually quite infantilizing and perpetuates vulnerability.
- dingledork69 3y agoIt's called an analogy. If you'd think for a few minutes you'd see the two situations are pretty similar. Of course one is far more extreme than the other, but both put the blame on the victim. Stop victim blaming.
- lliamander 3y agoAcknowledging that a person has agency and responsibility for their own well being is simply not the same thing as blaming them when they are victimized by other people. Until you understand that, there can be no meaningful discussion. If you continue making accusations and demands, expect to be flagged.
- dingledork69 3y ago[flagged]