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Do you not see my point that engaging from a place of honesty and partnership rather than patronizing manipulation is superior, and that you’re causing harm wit
by zmgsabst 4y ago
Do you not see my point that engaging from a place of honesty and partnership rather than patronizing manipulation is superior, and that you’re causing harm with that mindset due to telling a lie that validates their fears, without actual benefit?
- xboxnolifes 4y agoYou don't have to lie to keep a secret. Not telling someone something is still keeping a secret, and is necessary in the scenario that you know something will trigger an episode in someone. There's also the factor of time. You may start talking about something previously left unsaid later on therapy, after you've established some trust. It's really not any different than how people engage in normal relationships. How I talk to a stranger is different than how I talk to a colleague is different from how I talk to a friend. You need to first build a rapport before you can talk about certain things.