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I grew up in Georgia (the state) and besides Atlanta, it is still very much that way. When I stop by my grandparents house, if they're not home I'll just walk o

I grew up in Georgia (the state) and besides Atlanta, it is still very much that way. When I stop by my grandparents house, if they're not home I'll just walk on in and pour myself some tea while I wait or watch TV. Their neighbor mows their yard if none of the family can make it over to do it. Even only 40 mins from Atlanta, people still do that. I guess you call it a high-trust society? It's really only in the big American cities where that trust goes missing.

qup 4y ago
Can confirm, I don't own a key to my own home. I bought it without a key and I've never thought to get one. My neighbor gave me the code to his safe (full of gold coins), "just in case."
- xeromal 4y ago
  I'm sure your neighbor trusts that you'll let their heirs/widow access to the coins should the need arise. Life is that much better when you can trust people like that.
  - agnosticmantis 4y ago
    Maybe I misread the thread, but I’d find it a bit surprising (though not unlikely) that they would trust their neighbors more than their widow and heirs. Maybe they’re close friends that happen to be neighbors too, but then being neighbors would be a bit of a red herring.
    - xeromal 4y ago
      I generally operate in life assuming the best intentions out of everyone unless proven otherwise. I don't try looking for an ulterior motive
    - Dalewyn 4y ago
      I'm going to lay it out flat with you: Family relations are shit. There are tons of toes that should not be stepped on, there are "we're family" reasonings that might as well be under-the-table dealings you need to keep track of, if inheritances are on the line then who knows who has a knife ready to stab you in the back. Friends and neighbours by contrast are platonic, they are relatively simpler relationships. In fact, because they are so simple, there is much more value in trust and honesty because anyone who is dishonorable will instantly lose that relationship. Family relations aren't like that because most relationships can't be easily deleted. As the saying goes, keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Your closest relationships are your family.
    - busterarm 4y ago
      This isn't to insult the professions of people who show up to your house in emergencies, but elderly folks are known to hide cash away and more than once have I heard of situations where first responders tossed a person's house looking for valuables. Giving a trusted neighbor access and information about the contents is to protect those things for your heirs -- or to get you out of a jam.
- funnymony 4y ago
  You should not reveal that you know the code and especially the content of neighbour’s safe. Your physical surroundings might be safe, but internet is not.
  - qup 4y ago
    My physical surroundings are not safe, per se. My location doesn't determine my vulnerability. Anyone can attack anyone for any reason. But I agree with your comment's sentiment. I considered it, but only after the edit period was up. I generally consider myself anonymous here, which actually isn't true. Thanks for taking the time.
- PaulHoule 4y ago
  Many people in upstate NY live in houses without doors that lock. (If somebody is going to travel a long way to your house and there are no witnesses they can just smash down the door anyway.) On the other hand, despite being the home of anti-gun crusaders such as Mike Bloomberg, I’d reckon that half of the houses in upstate NY have a loaded gun stashed somewhere around the bed. I would bear that in mind if attempting any sort of home invasion.
  - aintgonnatakeit 4y ago
    These are excellent for murdering folks who accidentally turn into the wrong driveway.
    - qup 4y ago
      Locks?
busterarm 4y ago
Moved from NYC to South Carolina and the culture shock is real. Doors aren't locked. Neighbors help each other out with stuff like mowing, or bringing bins up/down driveways on trash day. No words are exchanged about it either. I removed the rust and repainted my mailbox this weekend and then went around the neighborhood to do the same for others while I had spare time and spare paint left. This is what I moved here for. No way will I stop working remote and go back.
- Broken_Hippo 4y ago
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  - automatic6131 4y ago
    This thinking is pathological
    - Broken_Hippo 4y ago
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    - pjc50 4y ago
      It's very real if you're in one of those categories. See South Carolina H4047.
      - echelon 4y ago
        One of the reasons they might think that way is because they haven't known or interacted with someone appreciably different. The more people interact, the smaller the gaps between us become. At the end of the day, we're all human.
    - busterarm 4y ago
      Nearly 60% of the nation's Black people live in Southern states and the "Great Migration" has been in reverse back towards the South since the 70s... To a large percentage of that population, this part of America is going to feel the most like home and a city like Atlanta has a lot more going on culturally than New York. Not only is this thinking pathological, but they act like not only does the world revolve around them but that they can't be guilty of any bigotry either. While living in NYC I saw no shortage of gay men shouting the N-word just as I saw homophobic minorities. Everyone is capable of being an asshole.

qup 4y ago

Can confirm, I don't own a key to my own home. I bought it without a key and I've never thought to get one. My neighbor gave me the code to his safe (full of gold coins), "just in case."

xeromal 4y ago
I'm sure your neighbor trusts that you'll let their heirs/widow access to the coins should the need arise. Life is that much better when you can trust people like that.
- agnosticmantis 4y ago
  Maybe I misread the thread, but I’d find it a bit surprising (though not unlikely) that they would trust their neighbors more than their widow and heirs. Maybe they’re close friends that happen to be neighbors too, but then being neighbors would be a bit of a red herring.
  - xeromal 4y ago
    I generally operate in life assuming the best intentions out of everyone unless proven otherwise. I don't try looking for an ulterior motive
  - Dalewyn 4y ago
    I'm going to lay it out flat with you: Family relations are shit. There are tons of toes that should not be stepped on, there are "we're family" reasonings that might as well be under-the-table dealings you need to keep track of, if inheritances are on the line then who knows who has a knife ready to stab you in the back. Friends and neighbours by contrast are platonic, they are relatively simpler relationships. In fact, because they are so simple, there is much more value in trust and honesty because anyone who is dishonorable will instantly lose that relationship. Family relations aren't like that because most relationships can't be easily deleted. As the saying goes, keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Your closest relationships are your family.
  - busterarm 4y ago
    This isn't to insult the professions of people who show up to your house in emergencies, but elderly folks are known to hide cash away and more than once have I heard of situations where first responders tossed a person's house looking for valuables. Giving a trusted neighbor access and information about the contents is to protect those things for your heirs -- or to get you out of a jam.
funnymony 4y ago
You should not reveal that you know the code and especially the content of neighbour’s safe. Your physical surroundings might be safe, but internet is not.
- qup 4y ago
  My physical surroundings are not safe, per se. My location doesn't determine my vulnerability. Anyone can attack anyone for any reason. But I agree with your comment's sentiment. I considered it, but only after the edit period was up. I generally consider myself anonymous here, which actually isn't true. Thanks for taking the time.
PaulHoule 4y ago
Many people in upstate NY live in houses without doors that lock. (If somebody is going to travel a long way to your house and there are no witnesses they can just smash down the door anyway.) On the other hand, despite being the home of anti-gun crusaders such as Mike Bloomberg, I’d reckon that half of the houses in upstate NY have a loaded gun stashed somewhere around the bed. I would bear that in mind if attempting any sort of home invasion.
- aintgonnatakeit 4y ago
  These are excellent for murdering folks who accidentally turn into the wrong driveway.
  - qup 4y ago
    Locks?

busterarm 4y ago

Moved from NYC to South Carolina and the culture shock is real. Doors aren't locked. Neighbors help each other out with stuff like mowing, or bringing bins up/down driveways on trash day. No words are exchanged about it either. I removed the rust and repainted my mailbox this weekend and then went around the neighborhood to do the same for others while I had spare time and spare paint left. This is what I moved here for. No way will I stop working remote and go back.

Broken_Hippo 4y ago
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- automatic6131 4y ago
  This thinking is pathological
  - Broken_Hippo 4y ago
    [flagged]
  - pjc50 4y ago
    It's very real if you're in one of those categories. See South Carolina H4047.
    - echelon 4y ago
      One of the reasons they might think that way is because they haven't known or interacted with someone appreciably different. The more people interact, the smaller the gaps between us become. At the end of the day, we're all human.
  - busterarm 4y ago
    Nearly 60% of the nation's Black people live in Southern states and the "Great Migration" has been in reverse back towards the South since the 70s... To a large percentage of that population, this part of America is going to feel the most like home and a city like Atlanta has a lot more going on culturally than New York. Not only is this thinking pathological, but they act like not only does the world revolve around them but that they can't be guilty of any bigotry either. While living in NYC I saw no shortage of gay men shouting the N-word just as I saw homophobic minorities. Everyone is capable of being an asshole.