Nailed it. You got me thinking with your "two ideologies"... I think it's more accurate to say, there are different modes of communication with different goals

Nailed it. You got me thinking with your "two ideologies"... I think it's more accurate to say, there are different modes of communication with different goals. At a minimum, there's sharing information, entertaining, social signalling, fighting/arguing. The relationship between speaker and listener varies in each case. Vocabulary, turn of phrase, tone all contribute. It's wise to figure out which case you're in and adjust accordingly.