I completely feel for you, I was in a somewhat similar situation although was working purely as a contractor for a startup. I was the sole web developer and bas

I completely feel for you, I was in a somewhat similar situation although was working purely as a contractor for a startup. I was the sole web developer and basically took idea from conception to launch, for a rather budget rate as I was light on experience at the time, yet would still get all kinds of flack at times, basically I've come to realize that 'business' people often simply don't and won't ever have respect for what developers do. Having worked for a company also that is 'mature', 10 years old, or so, that is run by sales and business people, I can say its the same thing, there is a lack of trust and respect on their part for the engineering team, even though software is their core product and without the developers the company couldn't even exist. Really the only way to get away from this, IMO, is to work for companies that have someone with a dev background at the top, its the only way a company can ever truly "get it"