yep, these kinds of discussions are frustrating for me, because it seems so clear that open honest communication proves them a non-issue. If you can't afford so

yep, these kinds of discussions are frustrating for me, because it seems so clear that open honest communication proves them a non-issue. If you can't afford something, say so. If you'd like compensation or reciprocation for something, say so. If you want to cover everything, say so. Letting fear of the conversation prevent you from having it makes the issue worse, not better.