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Her attractiveness may have to do with her recent marriage, but what did her recent marriage have to do with anything? They weren't at her wedding reception, o

by doty 15y ago

Her attractiveness may have to do with her recent marriage, but what did her recent marriage have to do with anything? They weren't at her wedding reception, or at a private party, or in any other social situation where that topic might be appropriate. Instead, they were in a professional setting, about to discuss a professional topic, about which she had many credentials. Why is it at all appropriate to bring up her recent marriage?

bherms 15y ago
For the same reason it's appropriate to bring up a recent child birth or something along those lines... It's a major life event and people like to congratulate them publicly for it. Had he said something like, "She just had a baby so congrats on being a new mother. You have a beautiful child..." or something it wouldn't be a big deal and everyone would cheer. His wording was off, but what if he had said, "Oh, and she just got married. Can her husband stand up? Congrats to you as well on marrying such a beautiful, intelligent woman"? I doubt anyone would be upset.
- rmc 15y ago
  It depends. There's a long history of women only being seen as successful if they get married, and conversely women who choose not to get married (or have children etc.) are seen as unnatural. There are still people who think this way (to varying degrees). I personally think that's wrong. A woman should be viewed as a failure because she didn't get her MRS. By bringing up the recent marriage of a woman, you are either promoting that idea in general, or signaling that you are the kind of person who thinks all women want to get married.
  - bherms 15y ago
    I agree that society's idea that marriage is the ultimately goal is complete BS and I hate that notion. In fact there was a discussion on reddit today about how society seems to think it ridiculous to even go out to dinner or to a movie by yourself; looking at that as pathetic... Again, another notion I disagree with. However, while not all women may want to be married or be seen as "failures" by society if they don't, because this woman was married, it's clear that she wanted to and would be excited about it. It's still a major life event that made her happy and deserves some congratulations or recognition. If the woman had, for some reason, been a huge WOW fan and just won a big national tournament or something, that could've been brought up and wouldn't have connotations along with it. It's still just as irrelevant, but once again, human beings usually seek to bring up and congratulate people publicly on major life events they find important.

by doty 15y ago

bherms 15y ago

For the same reason it's appropriate to bring up a recent child birth or something along those lines... It's a major life event and people like to congratulate them publicly for it. Had he said something like, "She just had a baby so congrats on being a new mother. You have a beautiful child..." or something it wouldn't be a big deal and everyone would cheer. His wording was off, but what if he had said, "Oh, and she just got married. Can her husband stand up? Congrats to you as well on marrying such a beautiful, intelligent woman"? I doubt anyone would be upset.

rmc 15y ago
It depends. There's a long history of women only being seen as successful if they get married, and conversely women who choose not to get married (or have children etc.) are seen as unnatural. There are still people who think this way (to varying degrees). I personally think that's wrong. A woman should be viewed as a failure because she didn't get her MRS. By bringing up the recent marriage of a woman, you are either promoting that idea in general, or signaling that you are the kind of person who thinks all women want to get married.
- bherms 15y ago
  I agree that society's idea that marriage is the ultimately goal is complete BS and I hate that notion. In fact there was a discussion on reddit today about how society seems to think it ridiculous to even go out to dinner or to a movie by yourself; looking at that as pathetic... Again, another notion I disagree with. However, while not all women may want to be married or be seen as "failures" by society if they don't, because this woman was married, it's clear that she wanted to and would be excited about it. It's still a major life event that made her happy and deserves some congratulations or recognition. If the woman had, for some reason, been a huge WOW fan and just won a big national tournament or something, that could've been brought up and wouldn't have connotations along with it. It's still just as irrelevant, but once again, human beings usually seek to bring up and congratulate people publicly on major life events they find important.