Shallow meaning. - Ownership is also a negative, you pay for upkeep, maintenance, admin and inventory of a house. You keep the wealth AND the costs. - When yo

Shallow meaning. - Ownership is also a negative, you pay for upkeep, maintenance, admin and inventory of a house. You keep the wealth AND the costs. - When you go to someone's house for dinner, you're not being bribed, you're relating to the owner of the house. The way you relate to the owner and their friends, influences your future friendship. - The home owner is not temporarily letting friends access his house. His friends can't rifle through his drawers and live at his house. He is inviting them in for dinner. At most, you are sharing a portion of his house and his hospitality for an evening. - If you buy stuff for me, I'll say thank you, but honestly I don't always want what you intend to buy for me. If you're not going to relate to my meaning and values, even when you're being "generous", then what's the point of being a friend? Money and physical goods among non-poor adults, are not a "default win" in friendships. The real generousity in buying a gift is relating to what the other person cares about and giving a small token of that. Wealthy people have many friends. It's always true, unless the wealthy person rejects it. People elect themselves to be friends with the wealthy. Money, gifts and generosity can't buy friendship from people who don't relate the way you do. I get this site is mostly about programming, startups and money, but jeepers. Did we lose the middle way and common sense so quickly?