I don't understand either - and I get that it's probably a cultural thing. But how you present it still matters - which I think the article doesn't quite addre

I don't understand either - and I get that it's probably a cultural thing. But how you present it still matters - which I think the article doesn't quite address. Every year I host an event at a restaurant in the city where I grew up. It's an opportunity to gather and see my old friends. I pay for it. Costs perhaps $2k. I don't ask for contributions but several friends give me cash afterwards, which I accept. Next year I'm gonna spend a month in Italy. I rented a villa in Tuscany. Decided to get a three bedroom so friends can come and visit. Several said they would, and asked how much they should contribute. I said they don't have to contribute towards the rental but can pay for events when we're there.