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I went through the same thing with a much newer friend. It makes sense to you and me logically, but I agree that there was a feeling of disconnect that ultimate

by noahjk 3y ago

I went through the same thing with a much newer friend. It makes sense to you and me logically, but I agree that there was a feeling of disconnect that ultimately made me back off. I'd rather help financially facilitate more opportunities to have a good time, but it just always seems to come off as an insult or uncomfortable, no matter how it's handled. I feel like im grossly overpaid for what I do in comparison to the much more impactful work that they did, making roughly half what I do, so in my eyes it's only fair to view it as more of a group thing where we can contribute relatively equivalent amounts rather than strictly split amounts? You know?

alwaysbeconsing 3y ago
> I feel like im grossly overpaid for what I do in comparison to the much more impactful work that they did, making roughly half what I do This this this. I'm a former blue collar who managed to break into tech. After a decade I still feel weird about the amount that I make. My partner and I now have our long-term finances completely squared away and still have money "left over" every month. I feel super lucky, and I basically just want to spend it on my friends and family. They are not destitute but mostly not in tech and just don't have the surplus that we have. Finding ways to share with them without it being overt and weird is an ongoing challenge. (Dinner parties are definitely a favorite, since we like cooking anyways.)