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I think the rented vacation home can cut the other way as well -- a friend may feel obligated to come because you spent the money already and expected a guest -

I think the rented vacation home can cut the other way as well -- a friend may feel obligated to come because you spent the money already and expected a guest -- and if they can't come, they'll feel bad about it. The way I navigated a similar situation was -- book the home for a week, and invite several friends to stay for a few nights when/if they're able. The cost isn't an issue then, it's clear that I was benefitting the most (being the only one there for the full week). And because several friends were invited, no one felt a specific obligation to come to make my rental "worth it".

Semaphor 3y ago
> I think the rented vacation home can cut the other way as well -- a friend may feel obligated to come because you spent the money already and expected a guest -- and if they can't come, they'll feel bad about it. Yeah, that was my line of thinking. The invite itself isn’t awkward, sounds fun. But taking as it is without context, it suddenly becomes an obligation forced upon me.
munificent 3y ago
> book the home for a week, and invite several friends to stay for a few nights when/if they're able. I've done this before too and it was one of the best vacations I've ever taken. I got a house for a couple of weeks and told a handful of friends they're welcome to drop in whenever but to coordinate with the others so that there's always enough beds to go around. It meant I got a nice long vacation. And just when I would be getting bored, a new friend or two would show up.