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I'm sure you know this, but trouble focusing could stem from many issues, the vast majority of which can be treated. ADHD is a big one, but there's others too,

I'm sure you know this, but trouble focusing could stem from many issues, the vast majority of which can be treated. ADHD is a big one, but there's others too, some behavioural. If you haven't already seen one, I'd book an appointment with a psychiatrist and/or a psychologist. I wish my parents had done so when I was the student with trouble focusing so I could have received the help I desperately needed but never got, which made school miserable. Your kid is going to have internet connected devices around him his whole life, so figuring out how to focus in spite of them is important, and there's nothing wrong with asking specialists for help.

skupig 3y ago
ADHD is a blessing and a curse. Anything you don't enjoy doing becomes very difficult, and it takes a lot of conscious effort to turn doing those things into habits so they'll stick. However, people often ignore that there is an equal and opposite side to that coin, and people with ADHD can hyperfocus to an absurd degree on tasks they enjoy. An internet connection and a desire to learn something is a powerful combination for someone who can shut out everything else in the world for several hours at a time. If you have a job you enjoy, ADHD is usually a boon. Unfortunately, high school is mostly stuff that falls into the "very difficult" category.
- notRobot 3y ago
  This absolutely holds true for my experiences with ADHD. If I enjoy my work I can hyperfocus and be really good at it, if I don't enjoy it then it's nearly impossible for me to get it done.
- spidersenses 3y ago
  >However, people often ignore that there is an equal and opposite side to that coin, and people with ADHD can hyperfocus to an absurd degree on tasks they enjoy. An internet connection and a desire to learn something is a powerful combination for someone who can shut out everything else in the world for several hours at a time. My personal experience is that I simply can't direct that hyperfocus. While I tend to hyperfocus on things that my brain considers "fun", the object of obsession is changing frequently (today it's some programming language, next week it's something totally unrelated like lets say hypnosis). Never enough time to build a foundation in that field/topic. For me, the ADHD is debilitating, and not some type "superpower", as I've read numerous times.
prepend 3y ago
Trouble could also stem from having an attention sucking device in front of them at all times. Suggesting ADHD to parents any time kids struggle is such a comical cliche. Of course it could be that, but when you hear hooves outside the door think horses not zebras. It’s like if there was a tv playing in every classroom. Imagine how distracting that is. I remember reading Ender’s Game and how the kids used tablets and thinking how great that would be. Instead schools wrote zero software and just plopped shitty vanilla windows that shows Kim kardashian news when you open a new tab and expected kids to stitch together their own education plans. As a parent it’s been hard experiencing schools get through this learning period and maybe one day it will be good. But I had two different schools with two different kids suggest adhd as the reason my kids struggle with an average of 21 different apps used in 6 classes each throughout the year. Of course physicians said no. But it’s funny how all of a sudden schools are detecting growth in adhd at the same time they’re issuing laptops.
- ehutch79 3y ago
  Even if it's not ADHD, a professional, and at least tell you that, and then provide coping strategies to help focus. And honestly it doesn't hurt for a teen to have someone who they can talk to who is not their parent/authority figure, and has their shit together.
  - prepend 3y ago
    Yes, this is true. Professional help is useful to teens (and all humans). While true, it’s silly to suggest it in response to a problem occurring due to school laptops. It’s like reminding people that meditation and exercise are valuable. It’s like when I’m menstruating and someone says “honestly it doesn’t hurt for a teen to have someone who they can talk to who is not their parent/authority figure.” Definitely true, but not relevant to the issue at hand. I think it comes from an intent to help and nurture, but it sounds like lalaland nonsense that just makes the conversation harder by spending time on something that doesn’t seem useful. Of course, you don’t know who has availability to use healthcare to diagnose so it may help sometimes for people who truly have undiagnosed ADHD. Or for people who don’t know that it helps teen to be able to talk to people who have their shit together. But I find that the problem is way more frequently that teens know how valuable it is to talk with people, but don’t have the resources or ability to find and use those people. So it’s like telling a homeless person how useful getting a job would be. Or a fat person that it’s possible to lose weight through diet and exercise. Yes, yes, let’s spend energy on actionable interventions.
wideem 3y ago
Welcome to America where everyone suddently has ADHD that needs to be treated with drugs...
- II2II 3y ago
  To be fair, there are behavioual interventions. That said, I do agree that there is a lot of pressure tobseek medical intervention for what are most likely environmental issues.
- LocalH 3y ago
  Also, welcome to America where a large segment of the population dismisses ADHD entirely, and presumes that everyone has the same ability to focus on uninteresting tasks, or presumes that those who suffer from ADHD and have hyperfocuses are lying because "you can focus on this, why not that?" There is a middle ground, a concept that is so utterly lacking in the modern world. ADHD is real. Unfortunately, there's no direct physiological test for it, it has to be observed via behavioral analysis, thus it's possible to get wrong. It's also not properly accepted as the disability that it can be without support and treatment. If a person has it, and is not properly treated at a young age, then that person is likely to have low chances in being able to get treatment as an adult. At that point, it basically relies on the individual being able to find a doctor who doesn't dismiss their concerns (because people are human and make mistakes, or have incorrect understandings). ADHD medications are also very highly regulated, far more than opioids and other far more dangerous-when-abused medications. If an ADHD person is prevented from obtaining their medication due to factors out of their control, they risk major setbacks in all areas of their life that can be extremely hard to bounce back from without some type of external support. Increased numbers of ADHD diagnoses does not necessarily indicate over-diagnosis. Of course the numbers of diagnoses will increase, how could there ever be a diagnosis before ADHD was identified and labeled? In the early 20th century, it was called "brain-injured child syndrome" and later "minimal brain damage". Those words also would have an associated meaning in the public eye, and people have historically not been good at dealing with things like "brain damage" and "abnormal people", so things like that tend to come with the baggage of stigma, further reducing chances of success and happiness in life. I was diagnosed with ADD in the late 80s, when I was 7 or 8. Just on a personal, observational level, I can tell that I definitely have focus control issues in the classical ADHD way - things that don't interest my mind are nearly impossible to focus on, but things that tickle my mind's itch are extremely easy to focus on. There's also not control over which group any given thing falls into. I'm extremely sensitive to physical stimulation, unless something else overrides that on a physical level (like the aforementioned hyperfocus). Stimulants slow me down, rather than speeding me up (this is probably a good test for likelihood of ADHD). For certain things, my brain figures things out extremely fast (one of these days I might try to go on Wheel of Fortune lol). This is just "the way life is" for me, always has been since I can remember. I would honestly like to see more research into how psychedelics interplay with ADHD. A few years back, I had a particularly deep experience with DMT that revolutionized how I think about time and human perception. It also fundamentally changed my focus control abilities for at least a good three months. At the risk of introducing a bit of "woo", it almost felt like the universe fed me a massive data-dump, that even to this day comes out in the form of my gut feeling. I've also had improved peripheral vision since this experience. I've also had similar, shorter lasting effects from LSD and mushrooms. I think there is a woefully untapped resource in psychedelics, that would be very useful for ADHD individuals. I think even a mindful, rigid microdosing regimen would be extremely helpful, with less of the side effects that stimulant-based drugs have. I believe this to be due to stimulant-like properties of the classical psychedelics.

skupig 3y ago

ADHD is a blessing and a curse. Anything you don't enjoy doing becomes very difficult, and it takes a lot of conscious effort to turn doing those things into habits so they'll stick. However, people often ignore that there is an equal and opposite side to that coin, and people with ADHD can hyperfocus to an absurd degree on tasks they enjoy. An internet connection and a desire to learn something is a powerful combination for someone who can shut out everything else in the world for several hours at a time. If you have a job you enjoy, ADHD is usually a boon. Unfortunately, high school is mostly stuff that falls into the "very difficult" category.

notRobot 3y ago
This absolutely holds true for my experiences with ADHD. If I enjoy my work I can hyperfocus and be really good at it, if I don't enjoy it then it's nearly impossible for me to get it done.
spidersenses 3y ago
>However, people often ignore that there is an equal and opposite side to that coin, and people with ADHD can hyperfocus to an absurd degree on tasks they enjoy. An internet connection and a desire to learn something is a powerful combination for someone who can shut out everything else in the world for several hours at a time. My personal experience is that I simply can't direct that hyperfocus. While I tend to hyperfocus on things that my brain considers "fun", the object of obsession is changing frequently (today it's some programming language, next week it's something totally unrelated like lets say hypnosis). Never enough time to build a foundation in that field/topic. For me, the ADHD is debilitating, and not some type "superpower", as I've read numerous times.

prepend 3y ago

Trouble could also stem from having an attention sucking device in front of them at all times. Suggesting ADHD to parents any time kids struggle is such a comical cliche. Of course it could be that, but when you hear hooves outside the door think horses not zebras. It’s like if there was a tv playing in every classroom. Imagine how distracting that is. I remember reading Ender’s Game and how the kids used tablets and thinking how great that would be. Instead schools wrote zero software and just plopped shitty vanilla windows that shows Kim kardashian news when you open a new tab and expected kids to stitch together their own education plans. As a parent it’s been hard experiencing schools get through this learning period and maybe one day it will be good. But I had two different schools with two different kids suggest adhd as the reason my kids struggle with an average of 21 different apps used in 6 classes each throughout the year. Of course physicians said no. But it’s funny how all of a sudden schools are detecting growth in adhd at the same time they’re issuing laptops.

ehutch79 3y ago
Even if it's not ADHD, a professional, and at least tell you that, and then provide coping strategies to help focus. And honestly it doesn't hurt for a teen to have someone who they can talk to who is not their parent/authority figure, and has their shit together.
- prepend 3y ago
  Yes, this is true. Professional help is useful to teens (and all humans). While true, it’s silly to suggest it in response to a problem occurring due to school laptops. It’s like reminding people that meditation and exercise are valuable. It’s like when I’m menstruating and someone says “honestly it doesn’t hurt for a teen to have someone who they can talk to who is not their parent/authority figure.” Definitely true, but not relevant to the issue at hand. I think it comes from an intent to help and nurture, but it sounds like lalaland nonsense that just makes the conversation harder by spending time on something that doesn’t seem useful. Of course, you don’t know who has availability to use healthcare to diagnose so it may help sometimes for people who truly have undiagnosed ADHD. Or for people who don’t know that it helps teen to be able to talk to people who have their shit together. But I find that the problem is way more frequently that teens know how valuable it is to talk with people, but don’t have the resources or ability to find and use those people. So it’s like telling a homeless person how useful getting a job would be. Or a fat person that it’s possible to lose weight through diet and exercise. Yes, yes, let’s spend energy on actionable interventions.

wideem 3y ago

Welcome to America where everyone suddently has ADHD that needs to be treated with drugs...

II2II 3y ago
To be fair, there are behavioual interventions. That said, I do agree that there is a lot of pressure tobseek medical intervention for what are most likely environmental issues.
LocalH 3y ago
Also, welcome to America where a large segment of the population dismisses ADHD entirely, and presumes that everyone has the same ability to focus on uninteresting tasks, or presumes that those who suffer from ADHD and have hyperfocuses are lying because "you can focus on this, why not that?" There is a middle ground, a concept that is so utterly lacking in the modern world. ADHD is real. Unfortunately, there's no direct physiological test for it, it has to be observed via behavioral analysis, thus it's possible to get wrong. It's also not properly accepted as the disability that it can be without support and treatment. If a person has it, and is not properly treated at a young age, then that person is likely to have low chances in being able to get treatment as an adult. At that point, it basically relies on the individual being able to find a doctor who doesn't dismiss their concerns (because people are human and make mistakes, or have incorrect understandings). ADHD medications are also very highly regulated, far more than opioids and other far more dangerous-when-abused medications. If an ADHD person is prevented from obtaining their medication due to factors out of their control, they risk major setbacks in all areas of their life that can be extremely hard to bounce back from without some type of external support. Increased numbers of ADHD diagnoses does not necessarily indicate over-diagnosis. Of course the numbers of diagnoses will increase, how could there ever be a diagnosis before ADHD was identified and labeled? In the early 20th century, it was called "brain-injured child syndrome" and later "minimal brain damage". Those words also would have an associated meaning in the public eye, and people have historically not been good at dealing with things like "brain damage" and "abnormal people", so things like that tend to come with the baggage of stigma, further reducing chances of success and happiness in life. I was diagnosed with ADD in the late 80s, when I was 7 or 8. Just on a personal, observational level, I can tell that I definitely have focus control issues in the classical ADHD way - things that don't interest my mind are nearly impossible to focus on, but things that tickle my mind's itch are extremely easy to focus on. There's also not control over which group any given thing falls into. I'm extremely sensitive to physical stimulation, unless something else overrides that on a physical level (like the aforementioned hyperfocus). Stimulants slow me down, rather than speeding me up (this is probably a good test for likelihood of ADHD). For certain things, my brain figures things out extremely fast (one of these days I might try to go on Wheel of Fortune lol). This is just "the way life is" for me, always has been since I can remember. I would honestly like to see more research into how psychedelics interplay with ADHD. A few years back, I had a particularly deep experience with DMT that revolutionized how I think about time and human perception. It also fundamentally changed my focus control abilities for at least a good three months. At the risk of introducing a bit of "woo", it almost felt like the universe fed me a massive data-dump, that even to this day comes out in the form of my gut feeling. I've also had improved peripheral vision since this experience. I've also had similar, shorter lasting effects from LSD and mushrooms. I think there is a woefully untapped resource in psychedelics, that would be very useful for ADHD individuals. I think even a mindful, rigid microdosing regimen would be extremely helpful, with less of the side effects that stimulant-based drugs have. I believe this to be due to stimulant-like properties of the classical psychedelics.