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I really don't see how this is such a big issue, it's slightly out of place to call someone sexy, but the simple fact of the matter is that it is partially just
by esrauch 15y ago
I really don't see how this is such a big issue, it's slightly out of place to call someone sexy, but the simple fact of the matter is that it is partially just a matter of gender associated terms. Imagine this:
> "Robert's one of the smartest men[1] I know, and I thought that he was a perfect pick for the role of moderator. When we selected Robert and he said yes, he was a handsome single man. And since that time, he’s become a handsome married man, and so I wanted his lucky new spouse to stand up. So we’ve got not only a very talented, but a happy moderator."
That doesn't seem even remotely odd or out of place to me (perhaps it would be as the entirety of an introduction, but that isn't the case here). So yes, he maybe should have said "beautiful" instead of "sexy", but if people think this is an example of how the tech community is sexist then they are seriously deluding themselves with how non-sexist it really is.
- scott_s 15y agoIf I was introduced as a "handsome single man," I would find it very, very strange. To the point that before I said anything, I would just look at the person introducing me with a bewildered look for a few seconds before speaking. So, yes, I find it quite out of place.
- enjo 15y agoIsn't the implication here that these folks know each other?
- scott_s 15y agoAlso not relevant. In a professional setting, I don't care if you're introducing your spouse, calling the person "sexy" is not appropriate.
- efnx 15y agoBut what if you were a "handsome single man?" At least they're being accurate.
- scott_s 15y agoDoesn't matter. I'm assuming a professional setting here, where it's not relevant if I'm handsome.
- bandushrew 15y agohandsome is not a synonym for sexy. A direct replacement is correct: "Robert's one of the smartest men[1] I know, and I thought that he was a perfect pick for the role of moderator. When we selected Robert and he said yes, he was a sexy single man. And since that time, he’s become a sexy married man, and so I wanted his lucky new spouse to stand up. So we’ve got not only a very talented, but a happy moderator."