The snark during my grad school/postdoc years was to have both a spouse[0] and a sidepiece. You tell the spouse you are with the sidepiece, the sidepiece you'r

The snark during my grad school/postdoc years was to have both a spouse[0] and a sidepiece. You tell the spouse you are with the sidepiece, the sidepiece you're with the spouse so you can go to the lab and get stuff done. [0] Updated for current norms