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Easy, no devices in their hands after bedtime. Your child isn't some busy tech professional that needs to be on call for work emails. They can live without havi
by wildzzz 4y ago
Easy, no devices in their hands after bedtime. Your child isn't some busy tech professional that needs to be on call for work emails. They can live without having their iPad and iphone in their room. When I got caught as a kid playing my Gameboy when I should have been asleep, I lost my free access to it and could only use it when homework and chores were completed. Once play time was over, they took it back because I was a dumb kid who wasn't responsible enough to manage my own screentime.
- raister 4y agoYes, that's my 'solution' as well - the router Sky (UK) gave me is utter crap, I put another one besides it and added QoS (so my kid has a poor game experience) and blocked useless websites (youtube, facebook, tiktok). Call me a bad father, but it's working. When it takes a looong time to download a shitty Roblox game, he starts doing other projects. It's like magic.
- _nalply 4y agoThank you. This confirms my suspicion: Just take the hardware away. I am lucky that my children accept the limits I impose on them. I think because they are not stupid and they sense that they need limits. It's not a struggle to take the hardware away. I even apologize to them when it's time to let the laptop go.
- adriand 4y agoWe do take the devices at bedtime, in fact, I have a reminder on my phone that goes off at 9:30 pm every night (which I started after discovering the problem). But it’s not just about the late night usage, which is mostly curtailed but not perfectly given I’m not a perfect authoritarian. It’s more generally what he’s doing with it. I don’t want him going down YouTube rabbit holes, developing a body image complex via Instagram, etc., at any time of day. It just seems strange to me that there’s this gaping hole in my parental oversight that was put there by our educational system.
- cykros 4y agoFor this, you're in a bit of a bind, and I too have run into this on my son's school issued chromebook. Blocking Instagram and Tiktok seem to be an easy enough solution at the firewall level (or DNS, using something like this: https://dnsadblock.com/block-social-media/ https://dnsadblock.com/block-social-media/). Youtube, however, is the tough one, as half the time the actual class material requires the use of Youtube embedded videos in the first place. I'd raise the issue among the PTA -- it seems like something that if enough people get involved on you might get a workable solution figured out. Hope the other stuff helps though.
- ihatepython 4y agoWhat if he is watching videos about quantum physics, and he might have been the next Einstein, if his parents didn't restrict his access to the information superhighway?
- laurels-marts 4y agoYT has a watch history so this “what if” can be easily tested. In case it’s true you can then supplement the internet superhighway with some relevant books on the subject.
- prepend 4y agoKids know how to clear the watch history. YouTube has been a real struggle for me. My kids cleared the watch history then I would notice the history was empty so I’d talk to them about it. Then the started clearing and then leaving playlists of “educational” stuff running over night to poison the history. Kids are smart. I haven’t found a real solution yet other than banning YouTube on everything but the tv in the family room. It’s funny because classes assign YouTube videos and the kids have to sit there and watch ads before their assignment.
- 1letterunixname 4y ago1 in 5000 views. You can bet 20% are TidePod challenges and blowing up swimming pools with dry ice.
- giantg2 4y agoSame gameboy experience here
- indemnity 4y agoParents got rid of my Gameboy when I was caught playing it under the covers with a torch at 3am (original one with no backlight). Eyes bloodshot as hell. Deserved it I guess but was devastated because I hadn’t finished Mario yet.q
- marssaxman 4y ago> Easy, no devices in their hands after bedtime. This is no longer so easy after your kid realizes they can simply wait until you fall asleep, then sneak into your room and filch the machine from wherever you've stashed it.
- prepend 4y agoMy router turns off all kid device internet at 930. So devices still have power but no connectivity.
- jonhohle 4y agoThat’s what locks are for.
- Dalewyn 4y agoAssuming the parents are competent, that only happens once.
- marssaxman 4y agoWell, thank you very much for that helpful bit of advice.
- Dalewyn 4y agoI mean, if the parents care about it it's as simple as pointing a camera at the goods or otherwise devising some mechanism to detect tampering. And before anyone says "DatS sUrVeIlAnCe!", sod off: Parents have a duty to surveil their kids and discipline their behaviour properly, it's a part of raising a kid.
- aaronblohowiak 4y agoit depends how adversarial boundary setting is..