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That's what happens when parents restrict kids instead of teaching them about the dangers.

WeylandYutani 3y ago
Americans believe children are pure innocent creatures who should not be told about sex. Hilariously churches are hotbeds of pedophilia. And the Republican party advocates child marriage.
- listenallyall 3y ago
  I guess I'm missing the joke... what's hilarious about pedophilia?
mc32 3y ago
Because we know that adults who get addicted to deleterious drugs in adulthood didn't know the dangers of it, right? Sometimes availability and the wrong situation can land people in a lot of trouble. Finance is another area where despite knowing the severe drawbacks. People in the wrong circumstance may seek out loan sharks.
- throwaway59601 3y ago
  Not sure why you're bringing up drugs here. We're talking about webpages, not substances directly altering your neurochemistry. But yeah, indeed - usually it's a fault of parenting. Instead of properly teaching about the dangers and responsibility (in case of weed/alcohol, or finance) they made it a tabu.
  - mc32 3y ago
    Point is, grown adults who "know better" fall into these traps too. It's not only about inculcation or knowing better. If it's there, despite all you know, sometimes you fall for it. That's the point.
    - throwaway59601 3y ago
      That adults know better is a myth. They don't. It's not about knowing better, it's about being taught to be reasonable with the thing, and that takes long exposure to that thing, ideally with the support of a parent.
      - mc32 3y ago
        You don't get it. People trained, educated, fall for scams all the time. People in pen testing who know they will get hit also fall. There is a case for a moat or external protection.
scarface74 3y ago
Yes, just like the “Just Say No” campaign completely stopped children from using drugs and parents telling children to “save themselves until marriage” stop children from having sex.
- giantg2 3y ago
  I agree with both you and the parent. Early on it's good to have restrictions, then phase them out as they're ready. At some point they need to be prepared to function on their own. Otherwise you might end up with 18 year olds acting like 12 year olds.
- throwaway59601 3y ago
  That confirms my point - I'm saying that restriction, blocking access or making it a tabu never works, it does the exact opposite (and worse, because it builds a sense of urgency to have/experience the thing). Instead of forbidding it, you have to teach the children about the actual dangers of doing the thing and how to do it safely, how to limit the damage and what are the limits they shouldn't cross - and the reasons for these limits. Telling them "just say no" or "you have to wait until marriage" only makes them even more curious, and in many cases they will absolutely overdo it once they finally are out of the reach of their parents.

Americans believe children are pure innocent creatures who should not be told about sex. Hilariously churches are hotbeds of pedophilia. And the Republican party advocates child marriage.

listenallyall 3y ago
I guess I'm missing the joke... what's hilarious about pedophilia?

mc32 3y ago

Because we know that adults who get addicted to deleterious drugs in adulthood didn't know the dangers of it, right? Sometimes availability and the wrong situation can land people in a lot of trouble. Finance is another area where despite knowing the severe drawbacks. People in the wrong circumstance may seek out loan sharks.

throwaway59601 3y ago
Not sure why you're bringing up drugs here. We're talking about webpages, not substances directly altering your neurochemistry. But yeah, indeed - usually it's a fault of parenting. Instead of properly teaching about the dangers and responsibility (in case of weed/alcohol, or finance) they made it a tabu.
- mc32 3y ago
  Point is, grown adults who "know better" fall into these traps too. It's not only about inculcation or knowing better. If it's there, despite all you know, sometimes you fall for it. That's the point.
  - throwaway59601 3y ago
    That adults know better is a myth. They don't. It's not about knowing better, it's about being taught to be reasonable with the thing, and that takes long exposure to that thing, ideally with the support of a parent.
    - mc32 3y ago
      You don't get it. People trained, educated, fall for scams all the time. People in pen testing who know they will get hit also fall. There is a case for a moat or external protection.

scarface74 3y ago

Yes, just like the “Just Say No” campaign completely stopped children from using drugs and parents telling children to “save themselves until marriage” stop children from having sex.

giantg2 3y ago
I agree with both you and the parent. Early on it's good to have restrictions, then phase them out as they're ready. At some point they need to be prepared to function on their own. Otherwise you might end up with 18 year olds acting like 12 year olds.
throwaway59601 3y ago
That confirms my point - I'm saying that restriction, blocking access or making it a tabu never works, it does the exact opposite (and worse, because it builds a sense of urgency to have/experience the thing). Instead of forbidding it, you have to teach the children about the actual dangers of doing the thing and how to do it safely, how to limit the damage and what are the limits they shouldn't cross - and the reasons for these limits. Telling them "just say no" or "you have to wait until marriage" only makes them even more curious, and in many cases they will absolutely overdo it once they finally are out of the reach of their parents.