I'm not sure why the existence of people who attempt to redefine "harassment" as "upsetting or inconveniencing me in any way" means one cannot use the establish

I'm not sure why the existence of people who attempt to redefine "harassment" as "upsetting or inconveniencing me in any way" means one cannot use the established legal or dictionary definitions of it when attempting to draw guidelines and laws for conduct in online spaces...? Like, I'm sure that there are loopholes and gray areas in the dictionary and legal definitions; the English language is woefully inadequate to fully convey the breadth of human experience. But nothing you've described falls into that category.