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If she wants my for my money she can move on, no loss.

flangola7 3y ago
Money is one of the most important elements in a relationship. Anyone telling you "love conquers all" is a fool or privileged to the point of ignorance.
- aix1 3y ago
  When you say "Money is one of the most important elements in a relationship", do you mean financial stability in the broad sense, or something else?
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- midoridensha 3y ago
  While this is certainly true to an extent (and I wouldn't say it's "money" that's important, but rather "financial stability"), the issue researchers have seen is that high-earning women in America simply will not "date down". These women have more than enough money for 2 people, but even so will not date men who earn less than themselves. The opposite is not the case: men earning the same don't have this same requirement of dating partners, and in fact usually date women who earn less, many times much less.
  - trashtester 3y ago
    And it's not even just the money. A woman with a college degree may be unwilling to date a tradesperson even if he's making $200k and she $30k.
    - midoridensha 3y ago
      Exactly, and for good reason too. The two people are so far apart politically, culturally, and in basic values and worldview that they aren't going to be able to have a lasting relationship.
      - trashtester 3y ago
        That's not a given. A woman with a BSc may come from a very similar background as a carpenter or electrician, but may reject him simply because she feels that her degree proves that she deserves better than that.
        midoridensha 3y ago
        The background isn't important. Lots of college-educated people came from families that weren't college-educated (I'm one of those). The college experience, and having a college education, makes you very different from people who didn't go to college. I wouldn't date a woman without a college degree either.
        trashtester 3y ago
        > I wouldn't date a woman without a college degree either. I'm curious: Do you have a postgraduate degree, and if yes, would you be willing to data someone with "only" a BSc? Let's say that someone has a PhD from a top university, for them to date someone without a BSc involves a greater gap than if someone with a mediocre BSc/BA from a community college dates an electrician. > The background isn't important. Here I disagree pretty strongly. An undergraduate will not provide the kind of class someone with multiple generations of doctors, lawyers, professors or "old money" tend to be instilled with during their childhood. Of course, those kids will almost always end up in college (if they're healthy). In my experience, those from working class families tend fake their sophistication (often overcompensating) at least well into the 30s to compensate, if their education takes them into such circles.
        midoridensha 3y ago

Money is one of the most important elements in a relationship. Anyone telling you "love conquers all" is a fool or privileged to the point of ignorance.

aix1 3y ago
When you say "Money is one of the most important elements in a relationship", do you mean financial stability in the broad sense, or something else?
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midoridensha 3y ago
While this is certainly true to an extent (and I wouldn't say it's "money" that's important, but rather "financial stability"), the issue researchers have seen is that high-earning women in America simply will not "date down". These women have more than enough money for 2 people, but even so will not date men who earn less than themselves. The opposite is not the case: men earning the same don't have this same requirement of dating partners, and in fact usually date women who earn less, many times much less.
- trashtester 3y ago
  And it's not even just the money. A woman with a college degree may be unwilling to date a tradesperson even if he's making $200k and she $30k.
  - midoridensha 3y ago
    Exactly, and for good reason too. The two people are so far apart politically, culturally, and in basic values and worldview that they aren't going to be able to have a lasting relationship.
    - trashtester 3y ago
      That's not a given. A woman with a BSc may come from a very similar background as a carpenter or electrician, but may reject him simply because she feels that her degree proves that she deserves better than that.
      - midoridensha 3y ago
        The background isn't important. Lots of college-educated people came from families that weren't college-educated (I'm one of those). The college experience, and having a college education, makes you very different from people who didn't go to college. I wouldn't date a woman without a college degree either.
        trashtester 3y ago
        > I wouldn't date a woman without a college degree either. I'm curious: Do you have a postgraduate degree, and if yes, would you be willing to data someone with "only" a BSc? Let's say that someone has a PhD from a top university, for them to date someone without a BSc involves a greater gap than if someone with a mediocre BSc/BA from a community college dates an electrician. > The background isn't important. Here I disagree pretty strongly. An undergraduate will not provide the kind of class someone with multiple generations of doctors, lawyers, professors or "old money" tend to be instilled with during their childhood. Of course, those kids will almost always end up in college (if they're healthy). In my experience, those from working class families tend fake their sophistication (often overcompensating) at least well into the 30s to compensate, if their education takes them into such circles.
        midoridensha 3y ago