>See S&M for extreme examples of people who most definitely keep pushing the power relationship boundaries ntil the other person says "no" If only the BDSM com

>See S&M for extreme examples of people who most definitely keep pushing the power relationship boundaries ntil the other person says "no" If only the BDSM community had some sort of system where rules and boundaries were laid out prior to anything happening. Oh wait, responsible BDSM participants do exactly that to prevent non consensual activity (also known as rape). You seem to be implying a participant in BDSM cannot be raped. >Most consensual sex is filled with little dares and attempts to push the boundaries. That exact mindset is what led to the encounter in this story turning into an attack. By telling other people it's ok to treat a woman as if she has granted full consent until she revokes it you help perpetuate the very culture that leads to events like this story. The guys in this story almost certainly think the same way you do, and you reassure them that they did nothing wrong. And this whole idea that you have to constantly push boundaries without permission stems from the childish fear that "If I say something, she might tell me to stop! Then I won't be able to get my rocks off." If the 20 seconds it takes to have a, possibly sexy, conversation about consent ends an encounter you didn't have consent to begin with.