I have a 5-year-old son. I've always known that it would mean less "me time" and less "couple time". Still, you don't really know what this means until you have

I have a 5-year-old son. I've always known that it would mean less "me time" and less "couple time". Still, you don't really know what this means until you have to live it on a day-to-day basis. Besides, having children is rarely a very rational decision. You do it because "everyone does it". There's a strong biological and cultural pressure to have children. And if you have one child, there's a strong pressure to have a second one. Anyway, I find it's really important to find a way to have "couple time", as well as "me time". Grandparents, if they're close and available, are a solution. My wife and I regularly take child-free trips and weekends. I also regularly take days off to have "me time" and work on my personal projects. I know this might sound judgemental, and maybe this is because I'm an introvert, but I don't understand people who do everything with their wife and children.