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> Do not ruminate! Do not revisit arguments that could have gone differently. Use what you can as a lesson and move on. Don't get stuck in the past. Ruminatin
by eastbound 4y ago
> Do not ruminate! Do not revisit arguments that could have gone differently. Use what you can as a lesson and move on. Don't get stuck in the past.
Ruminating is such a negative driver in a lot of our lives that I feel we should do better than internet advice.
It’s probably useful to rehearse decisions in the background, except when it’s overwhelming, and it makes me fall back into Tiktok addiction because only Tiktok takes me away from rumination, and I think we’re a lot of people who do something addictive just as an upgrade from ruminating.
But yes, ruminating ruins months, maybe years in a life.
Go see a psychologist if that is the case.
- 29athrowaway 4y agoJust learn what rumination is, and when you realize you are doing it, just acknowledge that it is not useful. You can say "Hello there, rumination. I know it's you. Now it's time to say goodbye." If you make thoughtful decisions based on information that's as complete as possible, you should be content with your decisions, whatever the outcome is, you did what you can with you had.
- eastbound 4y agoWhen you’ve been bullied, or when the end of the last job turned into negative comments all the time, rumination is a reflex.
- 29athrowaway 4y agoJust think that you did the best you could with the information you had, the time you had. End of story.