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Apparently the exact language was “certain aspects of traditional masculinity” as “ a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segme

Apparently the exact language was “certain aspects of traditional masculinity” as “ a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segments of the population, including: anti-femininity, achievement, eschewal of the appearance of weakness, and adventure, risk, and violence.” And yeah I can see where certain aspects of this suck. Anti-femininity is, to me, not very masculine. Masculinity is to stand on its own without being against the other sex. Eschewal against appearance of weakness is also to me not masculine. Humbleness is confidence. Papering over your flaws is super insecure, not confident, and pretty not masculine. I think you made this model of masculinity and then eschewed happy, whole men who don’t fit in that box. Healthygamer is a man, who is happily heterosexually married, who is dedicating his life to uplifting his fellow men. I think that’s a win for all men. Jordan Peterson frankly strikes me as kind of miserable in comparison. Healthygamer doesn’t go on long tweet tirades about pronouns and genders. He just focused on the mission, which is addressing men’s issues.

DangitBobby 3y ago
It's a mistake (or intentionally othering) to malign something like "traditional masculinity", which many people identify as a set of qualities about themselves that they enjoy, rather than just pointing out the _specific things_ about "traditional masculinity" that are considered harmful. I like being traditionally masculine, personality, I consider some of the personality traits I associate with it as virtuous and even help guide me in daily life. It's also helpful to enemies of feminism and modern thought on gender roles: now all I have to say is "see, look, they are calling what you are a personality disorder!" and I can convince them to dismiss the entire movement whole cloth.

DangitBobby 3y ago

It's a mistake (or intentionally othering) to malign something like "traditional masculinity", which many people identify as a set of qualities about themselves that they enjoy, rather than just pointing out the _specific things_ about "traditional masculinity" that are considered harmful. I like being traditionally masculine, personality, I consider some of the personality traits I associate with it as virtuous and even help guide me in daily life. It's also helpful to enemies of feminism and modern thought on gender roles: now all I have to say is "see, look, they are calling what you are a personality disorder!" and I can convince them to dismiss the entire movement whole cloth.