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We had friends with twins - theirs born about the same time as our first. Around four months when we were just beginning to get our life into some semblance of
by Tyrannosaurs 15y ago
We had friends with twins - theirs born about the same time as our first. Around four months when we were just beginning to get our life into some semblance of order I asked them if that was the case for them.
The look I got I might as well have asked them if they'd just been to the moon. Four months in and things were still massively hard work 24 x 7.
Twins are HARD and anyone who has them has my respect.
- eru 15y agoBut, does it amount to less work total for the same number of children?
- Tyrannosaurs 15y agoI think it's hard to view that way because of the way the work and pressures come. I have two kids a couple of years apart. The youngest one is still at an age where sleeping at night is an on-off business but the oldest one is now fine. With twins you wouldn't get that as they're both at the bad sleeping stage at the same period and that's something which re-enforces - two non-sleeping children at the same time is way worse than two non-sleeping children sequentially as there will be a period where you'll almost never get a good night. Similarly my older child can now feed herself which means that meal times with the two of them are easier than they would be if both needed feeding. Over all time, it might average out to close to the same amount of work per child (in later life they might entertain each other a bit more being the same age), but there are two or three years at the beginning where you're going to be severely punished. Also financially there's no hand me downs with twins - they both want / need stuff at the same time.