I'm a mid-level engineer working from Kentucky - trying to learn and grow remotely because after living in SF and other large west coast cities, I don't see how

I'm a mid-level engineer working from Kentucky - trying to learn and grow remotely because after living in SF and other large west coast cities, I don't see how anyone builds much of a life there before they're 35 anyway. I also fear remote is here to stay, with all of the wage changes that will create for skilled American labor (it'll do lots of good too, don't get me wrong!) EDIT: >I don't see how anyone builds much of a life there before they're 35 anyway. By this I suppose I meant that I don't see how I could build much of a life out there before I'm 35. I know a few people who pulled it off, but I'm under the impression it is an outlier outcome in a city of outliers.