The real problem is that the incentives are wrong for the sites. If they only got paid when there was a match that resulted in at least 3 months of dating or f

The real problem is that the incentives are wrong for the sites. If they only got paid when there was a match that resulted in at least 3 months of dating or friendship then you can bet they'd actually get that kind of result. Instead they actually get paid by letting men message women irrespective of how appropriate the match is(1), and by getting page views by suckering in people to believe more "connectivity" is available than really is there. (1) Explained in an OKCupid blog post they pulled but a copy is at http://interestingreads.posterous.com/why-you-should-never-pay-for-online-dating-ok http://interestingreads.posterous.com/why-you-should-never-p...