But is it offensive because being a woman is offensive, or is it offensive because as a man, being identified as a woman is a degradation or insult of your cond

But is it offensive because being a woman is offensive, or is it offensive because as a man, being identified as a woman is a degradation or insult of your condition of being a man? A developer might feel slighted at being compared to a manager. Likewise a manager might feel slighted at being compared to a developer. Both might have arguments about why a developer or a manager is better/different/more awesome, but the underlying slur isn't a global condemnation of either developers or managers, but that as a group of X you're trying to be more like other X and not like Y. So being told that you're Y is in fact saying you've failed at being X. In other words, it's not misogynist if a man feels insulted by being feminized, just like a woman might feel slighted by being forcefully masculinized (sp?).