I was presented with the option to endure a unpromising job for 8+hr a day but be around great friends (hometown), or move to a completely unknown city for a be

I was presented with the option to endure a unpromising job for 8+hr a day but be around great friends (hometown), or move to a completely unknown city for a better job but not be around friends. it wasn't an easy choice, but I considered the # of hours of suffering vs joy in either scenario, i went with moving for the job. pandemic and having kids really makes me reconsider whether i made the right choice. when I first moved out of my home town and was single, there would be stretches of days without seeing a smiling face or having a live conversation, but I have somehow gotten used to that - until a visited home when I saw my buddies smile it suddenly reminded me how sad my life was in the new city. but when I live close by to my friends, we wouldn't get together often neither, despite the intense trust we have with each other. i think the alienation/loneliness is the result of being exposed to so much information; minute differences in a persons ability to absorb information (thus pick up new values/hobbies/interests) used to result in very little practical change in someone's day to day life. nowadays, time i spend with old friends (in whom i still place the greatest trust and care) often consist of reminiscing about the past. if I want to talk about new interest or hobbies of mine, I have to find new friends.