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> Basically, gaslight yourself… No, it’s empowerment to make change to improve yourself and not wallow in it. Life’s unfair, everyone has their own circumstanc

> Basically, gaslight yourself… No, it’s empowerment to make change to improve yourself and not wallow in it. Life’s unfair, everyone has their own circumstances with which to grow from. Unfortunately some have much worse to grow from. But staying stagnant and not taking the first step will keep you in that state. > Effectively be passive… Not at all what I mean. You should try to improve things, but during such improvement the work might suck and that’s okay. That’s what people mean when they say something is hard. > Gender essentialism… There’s a multitude of studies that show if a feminine and masculine role are not present cohesively in a child’s life, they do not grow up in the best situation. I never mentioned threat, but there has to be an authoritarian aspect of parenting. You cannot have cookies before bedtime, no matter how loud you’re going to cry. Benevolence is desired, but having both parents be pushovers sets the child up for drastic failure. This does not imply abuse. It’s called socializing a kid. Single parent households on both sides of the equation are horrible. Yes people persevere, but much of the issues we see in inner city are due to single mothers and men leaving their family or being incarcerated unjustly. No amount of money injected into those communities counters this.

watwut 3y ago
> I never mentioned threat, but there has to be an authoritarian aspect of parenting. You cannot have cookies before bedtime, no matter how loud you’re going to cry. Benevolence is desired, but having both parents be pushovers sets the child up for drastic failure. This does not imply abuse. It’s called socializing a kid. And it is, frankly, idiotic to have that authority put on parent who spend least time with the kid. While making parent who spend most time with the kid helpless. > Single parent households on both sides of the equation are horrible. Yes people persevere, but much of the issues we see in inner city are due to single mothers and men leaving their family or being incarcerated unjustly. No amount of money injected into those communities counters this. Frankly, bullshit. Single parents households are not universally worst across cultures. And the "being incarcerated unjustly" implies way bigger stress factors in play then just single motherhood. And for that matter, money being injected into those communities so that you don't have single mothers working two jobs would actually do good. Or so that people are simply not desperate and stressed. Do you even listen to yourself?
MisterBastahrd 3y ago
Ignoring part of the problem is ignoring part of the solution.

watwut 3y ago

> I never mentioned threat, but there has to be an authoritarian aspect of parenting. You cannot have cookies before bedtime, no matter how loud you’re going to cry. Benevolence is desired, but having both parents be pushovers sets the child up for drastic failure. This does not imply abuse. It’s called socializing a kid. And it is, frankly, idiotic to have that authority put on parent who spend least time with the kid. While making parent who spend most time with the kid helpless. > Single parent households on both sides of the equation are horrible. Yes people persevere, but much of the issues we see in inner city are due to single mothers and men leaving their family or being incarcerated unjustly. No amount of money injected into those communities counters this. Frankly, bullshit. Single parents households are not universally worst across cultures. And the "being incarcerated unjustly" implies way bigger stress factors in play then just single motherhood. And for that matter, money being injected into those communities so that you don't have single mothers working two jobs would actually do good. Or so that people are simply not desperate and stressed. Do you even listen to yourself?

MisterBastahrd 3y ago

Ignoring part of the problem is ignoring part of the solution.