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I have mixed thoughts about this. I think there are at least two or more factors and social media is a part of it, but it doesn't operate in a vacuum. The rea
by Glyptodon 4y ago
I have mixed thoughts about this.
I think there are at least two or more factors and social media is a part of it, but it doesn't operate in a vacuum.
The reason I think this is that there seems to be a small minority of people who have the skills and mental models to use social media as a tool without adverse impact, as a well as another minority of people who seem to be able to remain distanced or minimal users of social media, without adverse impact.
These two groups seem to suggest that some kind of key missing life skill when combined with a need for social connection leaves people uniquely vulnerable to problems with social media.
My somewhat clueless guess about this is that people aren't situated to understand distance, authenticity, and relationships sufficiently. Maybe part of the problem is that many people are so socially starved of authentic and healthy loving relationships of all kinds in their lives, that many people can both know this but still be vulnerable. In some sense, maybe vulnerability rises because social media is a poor but just good enough placebo for loneliness?
I am also convinced that poor parenting compounds whatever is going on. Anyone who puts their 5th grader on Facebook or similar is a terrible parent IMO. Just the same as anyone who uses the iPad as a babysitter is a terrible parent IMO. But I suspect in many cases poor parenting is an artifact of parents who feel so trapped in unstable lives that hey can't feel stable or devote time comfortably to their kids. So maybe yet another factor.
- throwaway2037 4y agoanyone who uses the iPad as a babysitter is a terrible parent IMO Do you include a draw/colouring/painting app? That seems OK to me. It is a digital form of colouring books.
- Glyptodon 4y agoI mean using as a babysitter is a specific style of behavior where parents just give kids devices to avoid parenting, not so much dependent on the specific apps. "I'm talking to Jane, go play with the iPad."