> the actually fit I’ve met are all extremely calm, accepting and disciplined. This is the case with martial arts, especially bjj. You'll come in like a soft d

> the actually fit I’ve met are all extremely calm, accepting and disciplined. This is the case with martial arts, especially bjj. You'll come in like a soft doughey baby, and you will get smushed for a long time, but its rewarding for a veteran practitioner to see another person struggle and do well. They want to "lift" that person up an help them, as long as the newbie is trying hard.