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The reason that I've lost so many friendships in the past decade is exactly what you're saying: friendships are not a priority for the average person who is gai

The reason that I've lost so many friendships in the past decade is exactly what you're saying: friendships are not a priority for the average person who is gainfully employed, married with kids, maybe has pets, and also has social obligations to their relatives. For someone in your position, maintaining friendships is always going to be the lowest priority item, on a neverending list of responsibilities and social expectations. That's one thing that frustrates me about American society. People who are married with kids are insanely busy, with a robust and built-in social network, whether it's through interactions with relatives, or even making friends with other parents through sporting events, etc. It's tough for the rest of us. Obviously there is no quick fix to this problem, but for now I'm able to fill some social needs through meetups and other social events. I'll probably also get a pet eventually.

rirze 3y ago
Funny enough, I've lost friends over time due them taking on pets.
ido 3y ago
That's one thing that frustrates me about American society. I see nothing particularly American about that - all you've described happens in all 3 countries I lived in (Israel, Austria & Germany) and I'm sure this is pretty usual world-wide.
timdavila 3y ago
> People who are married with kids are insanely busy, with a robust and built-in social network, whether it's through interactions with relatives, or even making friends with other parents through sporting events, etc. Grass is always greener on the other side, and busy does not mean someone has friends.
theGnuMe 3y ago
> I'll probably also get a pet eventually. If you get a dog and walk it or take it to the dog park you will meet people there. There's also group training classes like basic obedience and agility. Be warned though, dogs, in general, require a lot of attention and some even need jobs.

rirze 3y ago

Funny enough, I've lost friends over time due them taking on pets.

ido 3y ago

That's one thing that frustrates me about American society. I see nothing particularly American about that - all you've described happens in all 3 countries I lived in (Israel, Austria & Germany) and I'm sure this is pretty usual world-wide.

timdavila 3y ago

> People who are married with kids are insanely busy, with a robust and built-in social network, whether it's through interactions with relatives, or even making friends with other parents through sporting events, etc. Grass is always greener on the other side, and busy does not mean someone has friends.

theGnuMe 3y ago

> I'll probably also get a pet eventually. If you get a dog and walk it or take it to the dog park you will meet people there. There's also group training classes like basic obedience and agility. Be warned though, dogs, in general, require a lot of attention and some even need jobs.