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First I'd have to understand how to make some friends as a 37 year old man who works entirely remotely. I'm trying on Bumble BFF mode, but not having tons of l

First I'd have to understand how to make some friends as a 37 year old man who works entirely remotely. I'm trying on Bumble BFF mode, but not having tons of luck.

k4j8 4y ago
I've had some success with sites such as Facebook Groups or Meetup. They organize events to connect strangers with a shared common interest, in my case casual hiking and board games.
chasd00 4y ago
To not feel isolated friendship is something that will have to be done in meatspace. Take up a hobby or interest shared by others and participate in events or outings together. It will give you something in common to talk about and take the edge off striking up a conversation. Just becoming a regular at a busy coffee shop is a step in the right direction.
bemmu 4y ago
Try a Hacker News meetup.
emodendroket 4y ago
To me Meetup seems like a much more natural model. There's some activity I have an interest in and I can meet other people who also want to do it. The Bumble BFF thing like... OK, we have nothing in common except we want to make friends? Seems odd.
DanTheManPR 4y ago
One way to do it is through hobby groups which meet IRL. You can make friends in the hobby-space there, and then gradually start inviting them to things that are not related to the hobby (becoming more of a true friend).
kuhzaam 4y ago
As a 36 year old that recently moved yet again to a new city (the third time in my adult life), I've had decent luck joining recreational sports leagues. Lots of leagues will have options to sign up as a "free agent", which usually means you'll get placed on a team with other free agents, which tend to be others in the same boat of trying to meet new people. If you aren't necessarily the athletic type, bowling and kickball are pretty good options. I've found that most of these leagues (especially if you sign up for the novice/recreational level) are NOT very competitive, and most people are just out to have fun, meet friends, possibly have some drinks, etc.
kjkjadksj 4y ago
Introduce yourself to your neighbors too
- fortuna86 4y ago
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First I'd have to understand how to make some friends as a 37 year old man who works entirely remotely. I'm trying on Bumble BFF mode, but not having tons of luck.

k4j8 4y ago

I've had some success with sites such as Facebook Groups or Meetup. They organize events to connect strangers with a shared common interest, in my case casual hiking and board games.

chasd00 4y ago

To not feel isolated friendship is something that will have to be done in meatspace. Take up a hobby or interest shared by others and participate in events or outings together. It will give you something in common to talk about and take the edge off striking up a conversation. Just becoming a regular at a busy coffee shop is a step in the right direction.

bemmu 4y ago

Try a Hacker News meetup.

emodendroket 4y ago

To me Meetup seems like a much more natural model. There's some activity I have an interest in and I can meet other people who also want to do it. The Bumble BFF thing like... OK, we have nothing in common except we want to make friends? Seems odd.

DanTheManPR 4y ago

One way to do it is through hobby groups which meet IRL. You can make friends in the hobby-space there, and then gradually start inviting them to things that are not related to the hobby (becoming more of a true friend).

kuhzaam 4y ago

As a 36 year old that recently moved yet again to a new city (the third time in my adult life), I've had decent luck joining recreational sports leagues. Lots of leagues will have options to sign up as a "free agent", which usually means you'll get placed on a team with other free agents, which tend to be others in the same boat of trying to meet new people. If you aren't necessarily the athletic type, bowling and kickball are pretty good options. I've found that most of these leagues (especially if you sign up for the novice/recreational level) are NOT very competitive, and most people are just out to have fun, meet friends, possibly have some drinks, etc.

kjkjadksj 4y ago

Introduce yourself to your neighbors too

fortuna86 4y ago
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