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> You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends. Really though? Anecdotally I feel the opposite... Proximity tends to breed opportunities for conflict. Personally,

> You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends. Really though? Anecdotally I feel the opposite... Proximity tends to breed opportunities for conflict. Personally, I really appreciate the distinction between neighbors that you have a more "professional" relationship with versus friends who maybe you have fewer day-to-day contact with but can be more intimate emotionally...

electriclove 3y ago
Thanks for providing this POV. Many of the responses here seem to think that density is a good thing. I feel the completely opposite way -> I need space. I need space away from my neighbors. I like not having other people park their cars next to my home. I like not hearing my neighbors have an argument or a party. I like not sharing the walls of my home with others. I like walking on a path by myself sometimes. There might be folks that like high density living, but please understand that there are others that prefer the opposite. It might be due to personality type or stage of life but there is no one size fits all.
noirbot 3y ago
Yea, I also definitely feel this. I was roommates in a large house with 3 good friends for a few years and I definitely feel like I'm better friends with all of them now that we don't live together.
wnolens 3y ago
Conflict is part of relationship. The less you spend time with someone, the less intimate it is, not more. What you seek is the benefits of relationship without any of the drawbacks. But they come as a package deal.
- jabbany 3y ago
  By the same logic, boundaries and distance are also part of a healthy relationship, and there's no point to forcing proximity when it is not desired. The original title of this post was "You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends." which I disagree with. It has since been changed to "Why don’t more people live close to friends?" which feels like a much more reasonable inquiry. The matter of fact is not everyone wants to be social and connected all the time. While it might be interesting to discuss how the modern world limits people who do enjoy being more close to their friends, my point is that it is critical to also recognize that, no, sometimes you'd be less happy living closer to friends.

electriclove 3y ago

Thanks for providing this POV. Many of the responses here seem to think that density is a good thing. I feel the completely opposite way -> I need space. I need space away from my neighbors. I like not having other people park their cars next to my home. I like not hearing my neighbors have an argument or a party. I like not sharing the walls of my home with others. I like walking on a path by myself sometimes. There might be folks that like high density living, but please understand that there are others that prefer the opposite. It might be due to personality type or stage of life but there is no one size fits all.

noirbot 3y ago

Yea, I also definitely feel this. I was roommates in a large house with 3 good friends for a few years and I definitely feel like I'm better friends with all of them now that we don't live together.

wnolens 3y ago

Conflict is part of relationship. The less you spend time with someone, the less intimate it is, not more. What you seek is the benefits of relationship without any of the drawbacks. But they come as a package deal.

jabbany 3y ago
By the same logic, boundaries and distance are also part of a healthy relationship, and there's no point to forcing proximity when it is not desired. The original title of this post was "You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends." which I disagree with. It has since been changed to "Why don’t more people live close to friends?" which feels like a much more reasonable inquiry. The matter of fact is not everyone wants to be social and connected all the time. While it might be interesting to discuss how the modern world limits people who do enjoy being more close to their friends, my point is that it is critical to also recognize that, no, sometimes you'd be less happy living closer to friends.