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We didn't teach our kids to read. We just read to them. A lot. Every day. By the time they were in kindergarten they could read on their own. By the time they

by bregma 4y ago

We didn't teach our kids to read. We just read to them. A lot. Every day. By the time they were in kindergarten they could read on their own. By the time they started learning to read in school they could bring their own books to read during lessons so they wouldn't get bored. Kids at that age learn by emulating what they see. If they do not see their parents reading, learning to read in school is going to be hard. No silver bullet technique will reach all the kids, especially ones from homes where reading is bitterly condemned.

joelfried 4y ago
We tried that with our first and it didn't work. Some children require more direct support. Knowing what works for those who need it is pretty huge.
- tivert 4y ago
  >> We didn't teach our kids to read. We just read to them. A lot. Every day. >> By the time they were in kindergarten they could read on their own. > We tried that with our first and it didn't work. Some children require more direct support. Knowing what works for those who need it is pretty huge. Yeah, I think the GP is making the same error has the "whole language" approach people--making the faulty assumption that mere exposure is enough to educate. That works with some, but clearly fails a lot. And even for the kids it works with, I'd be afraid it would leave gaps that would be much better addressed with some explicit instruction. My kid is tiny and loves to "read" (i.e. memorize and recite books). At this rate, he'll probably learn to read on his own, but I definitely want to make sure he has the tools to successfully tackle difficult and unfamiliar words, so he doesn't self-limit to the stuff he knows well.
  - nice2meetu 4y ago
    That time my daughter proudly announced “look Daddy, I can read this book with my eyes closed”
- doubled112 4y ago
  I'm in this boat. Every kid is different. My oldest was reading little books by 3. It was zero effort other than reading to him. Suddenly he just took over and didn't need mom and dad to read to him anymore. He's 8 now and can plow through the Harry Potter series in a week. Some days I think he might read better than I do at 31. My youngest is 5 and still struggling. He never really liked to be read to. As soon as he could get up and do something else, he did. He's getting there though, and we'll get him there.
  - Taywee 4y ago
    Basically the same here. Oldest was reading proficiently way before preschool, my youngest is 7 and still struggling to pick out up. He's really smart, and we read to him and with him plenty, but it just doesn't click for him like my oldest. He can do math no problem and he loves science and learning in general, but reading and writing are just specifically hard. It's weird how different things can be for kids even in the same family and environment.
  - ultrarunner 4y ago
    We have a 9 & 5 that are exactly the same way, which makes me want to mention: the Harry Potter series gets really dark pretty quickly. Some of the stuff in the latter books is (IMHO) not appropriate for 8-9 year olds. Just a friendly note in case you struggle like me to keep up with all the books your son is going through :)

by bregma 4y ago

joelfried 4y ago

We tried that with our first and it didn't work. Some children require more direct support. Knowing what works for those who need it is pretty huge.

tivert 4y ago
>> We didn't teach our kids to read. We just read to them. A lot. Every day. >> By the time they were in kindergarten they could read on their own. > We tried that with our first and it didn't work. Some children require more direct support. Knowing what works for those who need it is pretty huge. Yeah, I think the GP is making the same error has the "whole language" approach people--making the faulty assumption that mere exposure is enough to educate. That works with some, but clearly fails a lot. And even for the kids it works with, I'd be afraid it would leave gaps that would be much better addressed with some explicit instruction. My kid is tiny and loves to "read" (i.e. memorize and recite books). At this rate, he'll probably learn to read on his own, but I definitely want to make sure he has the tools to successfully tackle difficult and unfamiliar words, so he doesn't self-limit to the stuff he knows well.
- nice2meetu 4y ago
  That time my daughter proudly announced “look Daddy, I can read this book with my eyes closed”
doubled112 4y ago
I'm in this boat. Every kid is different. My oldest was reading little books by 3. It was zero effort other than reading to him. Suddenly he just took over and didn't need mom and dad to read to him anymore. He's 8 now and can plow through the Harry Potter series in a week. Some days I think he might read better than I do at 31. My youngest is 5 and still struggling. He never really liked to be read to. As soon as he could get up and do something else, he did. He's getting there though, and we'll get him there.
- Taywee 4y ago
  Basically the same here. Oldest was reading proficiently way before preschool, my youngest is 7 and still struggling to pick out up. He's really smart, and we read to him and with him plenty, but it just doesn't click for him like my oldest. He can do math no problem and he loves science and learning in general, but reading and writing are just specifically hard. It's weird how different things can be for kids even in the same family and environment.
- ultrarunner 4y ago
  We have a 9 & 5 that are exactly the same way, which makes me want to mention: the Harry Potter series gets really dark pretty quickly. Some of the stuff in the latter books is (IMHO) not appropriate for 8-9 year olds. Just a friendly note in case you struggle like me to keep up with all the books your son is going through :)