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Engage in regular social activities. Take beginner classes, to gain some confidence and build a small social group. Plenty of 4-8 weeks series to choose from. T

Engage in regular social activities. Take beginner classes, to gain some confidence and build a small social group. Plenty of 4-8 weeks series to choose from. Then take higher level classes, too. Plenty online resources (meetup, fb groups, .org website) to get you going. * Team sports. Soccer, volleyball, ultimate frisbee, basketball, etc. There is a pickup game somewhere in your city every day/week. * Outdoors. Group hike, backpacking, cross-country skiing, sailing. E.g. mountaineers.org in PNW, surely there are similar orgs all over. * Partner dance. You don't need a dedicated partner, events cater to singles too. * f3nation.com / fianation.com The ultimate free outdoors workout, rain or shine. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/24/us/f3-workout-men-texas.html https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/24/us/f3-workout-men-texas.h... * Running group. * Pick a church and go to Mass every Sunday morning. Hang around for coffee and Bible study too. ♡

kerkeslager 4y ago
Most of these are good suggestions, but I'll say from my experience, doing too many things also creates a problem because you don't gain skill at any of the activities or spend enough time in one to create deeper connections with the people involved in it. At one point in my life I was dabbling in like 30 different things and never really getting good at any of them or feeling connected with any of their local communities. I made a decision to narrow that down to rock climbing and guitar, and get really committed to those two things. The improvement in my quality of life just from that change was honestly pretty huge. Of course you need to try a bunch of stuff to find out what you like, but once you find something you're really passionate about, it's okay, beneficial even, to limit how much you try other things so you can really delve into the activity and community you're passionate about.
bheadmaster 4y ago
Here are some less mainstream social suggestions: * Cult. People in cults are very supportive to other cult members. * Black metal band. Blast beats, tremolo picking, shrieking vocals, pick your poison. * Cult black metal band. Best of both worlds. * Mongolian throat singing group. * Artistic burping club. * Discord server with guys wearing knee long socks and speaking with voice modulators. * Trap house. Nothing solves a burnout faster than a psychonautical trip! * Bird watching club. See what them birds are up to.

kerkeslager 4y ago

Most of these are good suggestions, but I'll say from my experience, doing too many things also creates a problem because you don't gain skill at any of the activities or spend enough time in one to create deeper connections with the people involved in it. At one point in my life I was dabbling in like 30 different things and never really getting good at any of them or feeling connected with any of their local communities. I made a decision to narrow that down to rock climbing and guitar, and get really committed to those two things. The improvement in my quality of life just from that change was honestly pretty huge. Of course you need to try a bunch of stuff to find out what you like, but once you find something you're really passionate about, it's okay, beneficial even, to limit how much you try other things so you can really delve into the activity and community you're passionate about.

bheadmaster 4y ago

Here are some less mainstream social suggestions: * Cult. People in cults are very supportive to other cult members. * Black metal band. Blast beats, tremolo picking, shrieking vocals, pick your poison. * Cult black metal band. Best of both worlds. * Mongolian throat singing group. * Artistic burping club. * Discord server with guys wearing knee long socks and speaking with voice modulators. * Trap house. Nothing solves a burnout faster than a psychonautical trip! * Bird watching club. See what them birds are up to.