I think the trick is really that you need to A) notice if you are a person who engages in activities dominated by your own gender or solo activities, B) figure

I think the trick is really that you need to A) notice if you are a person who engages in activities dominated by your own gender or solo activities, B) figure out how to broaden your horizons without whiteknucking it. I want to stress just how difficult both of these things can be -- especially the second part. It's truly a journey where you end up changing your entire mindset to become a person who is going to make a good partner for another human being. You must not feel pressured to do it, or resentful that you are doing it. You must choose wholeheartedly to do it. It's going to feel awkward and strange along the way.