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Your reasoning sounds a little over-binary; both things can be simultaneously true: 1: Attractive people will find dating and securing a relationship easier th
by BirdieNZ 4y ago
Your reasoning sounds a little over-binary; both things can be simultaneously true:
1: Attractive people will find dating and securing a relationship easier than unattractive people
2: Physically unattractive people can still be very successful in dating and securing relationships, because there are many other impactful factors besides physical looks
So you can say without lying or deception "it's surprising that [incredibly good looking person] is perpetually single, it should be easy to leverage their looks into a relationship" and also "don't give up just because you're ugly, there are far more important factors to finding a relationship than just your looks".
- atleastoptimal 4y agoThe surprise at someone being single seems to be exclusively about looks. I've never heard something about someone being single and being being shocked and saying "but he's so interesting/charming/charismatic", the surprise factor seems to be almost exclusively about physical appearance. If someone is ugly but very charming, and it is revealed he is perpetually single, it never really seems to be a surprise to most people. This seems to support the commonly, tacitly understood notion that looks are the most important factor, everything else is of relatively ancillary importance. I'm not implying that other factors aren't commonly regarded as also important, but they're never given the primacy of deterministic impact that it seems that physical appearance is.