Archive link for those who are having issues getting the article to load: https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrosenstock.net/2023/04/10/im-

Archive link for those who are having issues getting the article to load: https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrosenstock.net/2023/04/10/im-single-i.html https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrose... --- [edit for commentary] I was like the author, except I have had a burning desire to have family and children since I was a boy. I started thinking about fatherhood when I was maybe 12. After a failed long term relationship, and three or four girlfriends I finally settled with the fact that my drive to fulfill this desire overrides pretty much any degree of pain or dissatisfaction from prior relationships. I've prayed plenty of times to have this desire taken from me because it screwed with my head to be single. As if this one thing was a gateway to the rest of my life. I know that's not fundamentally true, and I haven't put my life on hold just because I lack a romantic relationship. I generally advise even hesitant men to "go for it" because they won't make any progress towards a goal if they don't get over themselves and try. To the guys who have tried and failed, I say "take damage, keep moving". There are whole groups of men on the other side of failed relationships that are utter poison to everyone around them. If anyone needs a cheerleader or someone to keep them accountable, let me know.